Ok guys this is a long one for me but I really need support rn. So last night my stbxw tried to kill herself I ended up calling 911 to get her some help we stayed up all night with the police and our MHMR crisis counselor and found her an inpatient behavioral hospital she agreed to go voluntarily and asked if I could drive her rather than being driven as the hospital was an hour away so we got a few hours of sleep took our son to his grandparents for the weekend. After a really emotional car ride I got her checked in and it was time for me to leave on my way home she was able to call me and confessed that she didn’t want the divorce and coming in here was a real wake up call and I believe her it sounded and felt genuine she asked me to turn around and come check her out only to find out that she has to wait at least 24hrs and be cleared by a doctor before leaving so I go home I go find my wedding ring and put it on just for the night and I really believed she wants to fix things. But something is telling me something is not right so I do probably the worst thing I could and snoop through her computer only to find that she has been messaging her ex boyfriend this was a guy she was really hurt over when we met and then we became a couple and she blocked him and I thought that was the end of it. I found they had been messaging for about a month several video chats both day to day chit chat and emotional type stuff including shit talking me on occasion. She even sent him nudes and not just any nudes she sent him the set that she took for me to keep in my wallet also new ones that I had never seen but could tell they were new. I know I need to confront her about this if we are going to actually move into reconciliation and I feel like if I ask her about it and she tell the full truth then we have a shot but if she lies then definitely not. I also don’t know if I want to say anything at all because of her suicidal tendencies I really feel like it would push her over that edge. I’m not even sure the marriage is worth the trauma after all of this but I know I still love her and I really wish this would work but I don’t know if it can.