Just a note to those that are in the process of getting divorced or recently divorced that it gets easier.
Allow yourself to feel the grief. But recognize, that like a sore muscle, it won't hurt forever.
Some are lucky enough to find a great new partner, but, while I've dated some, I haven't really had anyone I'd really consider a girlfriend. And honestly, I wasn't ready for it. I needed to do a lot of private grieving first and get my shit together.
It's been a year. I'm feeling so much more together and healed. I imagine I'll still have some tough moments and new stuff to deal with, but life is much better now than it was a year ago or even 3 months ago.