Looking for information about what to expect from first court ordered custody mediation

itonlyhappenstwo · 2021-09-13T13:52:57+00:00

You seem prepared. You have experience and know the points that you want to make. The only consideration, I would respectfully add to that; is recognizing when things are beyond your control. As much as it can seem that the whole world is wrapped up in this moment; it will pass. Make your points, make them well, and do not die in the fight!

bacon-wrapped-steak · 2021-09-13T15:46:34+00:00

Stand firm on your demands. DO NOT agree to any terms that are unfavorable to you. My attorney negotiated the most retarded custody terms ever. I wish I had fired him before mediation, but I didn't want to create additional chaos.

toooldforthisnonsens · 2021-09-13T13:15:30+00:00

She can't make unilateral decisions, the mediators will probably also understand that and they will do their best to help both of you.

trampledrosetrampled · 2021-09-13T13:18:52+00:00

My personal guess is that a 50% - 50% arrangement is good for all, nobody pays anybody and the child/children see both parents equally, but I'm not an expert on the subject and each situation is unique and different.

itonlyhappenstwo · 2021-09-13T18:49:25+00:00

It sound nuts. The only thing that could support something that one-sided, is if there some forms of abuse allegations. As a word of caution to myself, we surely do not know all the facts. If there is not serious allegations of abuse on either side; sadly to say this is where patience comes in. There is an old adage about patience, being a bitter something and bearing the sweetest fruit. If you really believe you are right, AND there are not major extenuating issues, you will "man up" and ride it through, with faith in the future.

pegleg_legal · 2021-09-14T10:57:13+00:00

You did fine. Mediation over custody issues is like a tick the box thing in any sort of contested or acrimonious divorce. At least she aired her ridiculous positions in public. She seems really entitled and out of touch with reality, is her lawyer stoking these beliefs?

dday_throwaway3 · 2021-09-14T13:51:48+00:00

"I'll see you in court" is the only reasonable response to a woman who is being unreasonable. The standard is alternating holidays. A week away from her being "too long" is bullshit. So junior can never go to summer camp? Or a travel team? Or go to grandma's for a week?

You have to stand your ground. Just because she has a vagina does not make her the better parent. Fathers are not second rate parents.

Title	Looking for information about what to expect from first court ordered custody mediation
Author	toooldforthisnonsens
Upvotes	4
Comments	22
Date	September 13, 2021 1:03 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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