Lost..

LashkarNaraanji123 · 2024-10-29T23:37:18+00:00

Okay, so you live with your parents for a few months. They'll probably be happy. If it's rent to own, you can get bank statements, so you've build equity. Imagine her mom's surprise when she has to pay YOU at least some of what you've paid back.

Now, imagine your daughters when dad is back into Full Flow Mode, without the stress of dealing with this woman. How much barbeque and movie or game nights and all the fun you're all going to have.

Logical_Can_2365 · 2024-10-25T05:12:51+00:00

Nothing anyone can say could take the hurt your feeling away at the moment but overtime you realize you deserve better and focus on building yourself back up into a better person

juliaskig · 2024-10-25T02:05:49+00:00

Talk to a lawyer. Do you have a contract on rent to own? You might own half the equity that accrued. If not, you do have tenant's rights, and you should take full advantage of them.

You might even want to have your own affairs (don't do it, but you can imagine the revenge).

Wild-Sir5083 · 2024-10-24T23:22:45+00:00

You can get through this, it gets much better

stent00 · 2024-10-24T18:50:35+00:00

What mother has time to hoe around with a one year old... man she's for the streets dude. Good riddance

Own_Chemist_2600 · 2024-10-24T17:40:05+00:00

You are going to be ok bud. Be kind to yourself. I hope you can find a good councilor and good community.

Do all that you can to let your rage out with safe people. Keep your kids away from it. This may settle out in ways you cannot imagine. The world will have grace for you all. Keep it simple and don't compound the situation with angry decisions. There is love for you. And understanding!

You will be ok.

Suspicious_Dot6179 · 2024-10-24T15:39:02+00:00

Wow man even I hate ber now lol! Yeah ur kids will be fine cos u will be a better person without her man. Also for me God sorted it all out with a brand new wife, 1000 better than the first. Literally I cannot stand to be near my ex for long periods now, and I thought I loved her. Yeah....don't give up, not for that cheating bitch, not worth it.

Reflog1791 · 2024-10-24T14:17:37+00:00

One foot in front of the other. This too shall pass. Dig deep to keep your job. Don’t make the situation worse.

I was in same boat and everything worked out 1000x better. I now thank my ex for her affair.

Think_Ad_6351 · 2024-10-24T13:21:36+00:00

So sorry my guy. It's not fair at all. Wishing you the best.

mendaiga2120 · 2024-10-24T12:45:15+00:00

Its hard brother, same shit happened to me. My advise to you , Go rebuild at mum and dads ,they will support you mentally aswell . Get a lawyer to see what you can do with house (dont know much about your situation). go see your doctor get some real help meds & therapy (anti depression) People say gym but i took up boxing cause i wanted to let out my anger. I started with walking the block and listening to podcasts on mens healing. Take your kids with you if they old enough and want to be with u. THEY ARE ALL THAT MATTERS NOW! This will be hard for you but cut all contact, block her on everything. And rebuild you. Do all the shit that you wanted to do when was with her. Whatever you do brother , do not take her back!! Leave her to be someone elses problem. Goodluck you got this

0neMinute · 2024-10-24T12:43:30+00:00

Alot of the things you mention are soul wrenching and I am here with ya brother, alot of the same happened to me with the ex wife moving on literally the next day and never looking back.
You know what didn't happen though ? I got my kids 50 / 50 and while I am going to miss mile stones I am not going to miss them all.
You know who does have to miss out and feel like shit? Your ex wife, every time a mile stone happens or you have fun with your kids she will feel like shit knowing she caused herself to miss out.
It also sounds like you have been carrying all the weight in the relationship while she breeze through it and used you as a constant scape goat.
Now you have all that uneeded extra weight off your back, get a lawyer, let her go congradulate her on her new relationship and watch her crumble knowing that YOU dont need her.
She was not the catch, you where the catch. You support her , you took care of her, you where their for her. This new guy ? He hasn't saw the full her and vice versa, they have only known each other for the fun affair. It is the whole 80% vs 20% , he gave her 20% she was supposed to fill herself and when she finally deals with his shit for the other 80% she will know she fucked up (though she may never admit it).
Stand strong stand tall even when your sad, you sir are a king now treat yourself like one and do not let her weigh you down anymore.
Cry alone when needed but do not let her see you being weak, begging or groveling. You are above that and she is beneath you, remember that. What value does a cheating partner have in any future relationship? Who would actively want that type of person other then a low value person themselves?
You got this !

Sea_Emu_4259 · 2024-10-24T12:37:46+00:00

⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it. Here's why In most jurisdictions, until the divorce is finalized, you have the RIGHT occupy the marital home, regardless of whose own it
She Cheated?
- STD check
- DNA parental test
- check if Eligible to homewrecker" law? more details here
Time for Resilience Building : lift+cardio+theapist See more details

ps: what you meant by renting to her mum? Was it cheaper that way? Did you somehow bought it ?

Title	Lost..
Author	frbmaximus
Upvotes	17
Comments	15
Date	October 24, 2024 12:19 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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