My wife and I have been married for almost 4 year, together for about 5. Through this time we have argued non-stop about ridiculous stuff, at least I thought it was ridiculous until she alluded to leaving me over these items (Religion and Vaccination status). I was taken aback when she said it. I did some digging and found out she really is planning on leaving me, but she will not admit to it as I believe she is working with a lawyer and is waiting to serve me papers. She has been exhibiting increasingly cold and deviant behavior in the past few months. She all of a sudden started hating my family a couple years ago, out of nowhere which blindsided my sister and mom as they had a decent relationship. She's been caught in lies lately, although she can always justify her way out of them.

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Last Sunday, her and I got into a disagreement. We had agreed the night before(Saturday) that I would be going into town to buy some renovation materials - everything was all good. I was up very early Sunday morning as our 6mo would not go back to sleep. While hanging out with him on the couch, I decided to register for a Church service as I had not been in a few weeks(it is normal for me to go every Sunday), which I told her about as soon as she woke up. All of a sudden, she is not okay with me going as it is now for personal reasons, not for 'home improvement reasons'(very controlling person, has a massive issue with my faith). I asked her what the difference would be if I went to church and bought materials vs. just buying materials, she couldn't answer me and made me feel like I was crazy for asking. We got into an argument about it, I walked into the kitchen(wife in dining room) threw my coffee cup in the sink and walked away to get dressed. Coffee cup broke in the sink. Before I left the house, I cleaned up the broken cup, wiped all surfaces and swept the floor just in case. I apologized to her about breaking the cup in anger, she wasn't happy about it but she wasn't overly upset either. I left on 'decent' terms. While I was out and about, I received a call from the police! She called the cops saying I was violent, she was scared for her life, and that I'm an absent father,,.. Total BS. The cop even agreed that what happened didn't warrant a call to the police. Yes I can get angry sometimes but I never exhaust any anger towards her or the kids, EVER. I love my boys to pieces and wouldn't hurt a woman, let alone my wife, in any way.

I looked at her iMessages on her laptop and she was telling her friends and family that she can't take the kids away from me until she gets me convicted of something.. After this, my trust in her is shattered. I feel like there is an ax hanging over my head in my own house all the time and I'm fearful that she is going to fake a scenario to get me booted out of my house and my kids taken away.

Never has our relationship been like this, nor have I ever been abusive to her or the kids, or even treated them in a way that would lead her to do this. I will be the first to admit that I am far from perfect in so many ways but I'm an honest husband of one woman, love my 3 boys(4th on the way),work my tail off to pay for our life and am home every night for dinner. I don't understand.

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I've been recording every interaction secretly on my cellphone in fear of having situations manipulated. I don't know what to do. I've reached out to a lawyer but they're all closed until the 3rd/4th. My family all attests to my character and knows how much I put up with in dealing with her ridiculous family(drama all the time, controlling, manipulative) and know that, although not without flaw, I don't deserve this.

What should I do?