Sleep and the nightmares

falcon0221 · 2025-04-24T15:24:59+00:00

2 years later and medication to help

Betterbythedaycoach · 2025-04-23T23:25:48+00:00

Therapy would be a great option . Unfortunately things don’t improve until you go through the process. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. What really helps are things to occupy your mind and cheer you up. The more of that you can get, the better.

For me it was about 6-8 weeks until things started to feel closer to normal. We had kids so I put extra focus in to them and found their happiness and joy helped me a lot. If you don’t have kids, things you you’ve always enjoyed would be a good start. Sports, games, exercise, reading, or any hobbies. Anything you can do to feel better about you. Dating will help too but you don’t want to get into that until you’re good yourself

Heavy_Guitar_4848 · 2025-04-23T18:33:29+00:00

Magnesium glycinate. You’re probably depleted from all the stress

BornBandicoot2515 · 2025-04-23T17:11:36+00:00

I’m weeks in and still having shitty dreams and poor sleep. Not every night but often. It sucks. I’ve tired all kinds of sleep aides and very few are effective for me. CBN, melatonin, even tram have not worked super well. Unfortunately anti-depressants seem to work best but obviously want to be very careful there.

Doesn’t help that she is dating and I dwell on her having sex with people. And occasionally I will have a dream with her in it (not just thoughts / thinking about it).

I’m hopeful that this will pass once I’m able to process more (therapy and reading) and eventually do some dating.

Your mind is not your friend in these times, unfortunately.

biscuts99 · 2025-04-23T15:57:09+00:00

It took a month or 2 before I was sleeping more than 3-4 hours. Therapy helped Also recreational abused Nyquil and melatonin. But even now almost 2 years later there is the occasional night where I'm up thinking.

jimsmythee · 2025-04-23T15:54:09+00:00

The first night after I served my now-exwife divorce papers (she's an addict to pills) and went to a hotel? I couldn't sleep. Too many thoughts about what will happen to my house, my finances, the kids, etc. I think I managed an hour or 2? The next night? I slept soundly.

We are long since divorced and I made out like a bandit. But all I can say is that I still have the nightmares about her.

I haven't had this one in a long time. In the nightmare, I've lost everything. My cats went to shelters. I've lost my job. I've lost my car. I've lost my house.

But this one I still have variations of. The nightmares that we are still together. One where we have lost everything due to her disasters, and we had to move in with her parents. I had lost my job, my house, my car, everything. And her dad is there, giving me the "dad speech" even though it was his daughter's addictions that caused us to lose everything.

Fawn001 · 2025-04-23T10:48:01+00:00

First few weeks were full of nightmares n crap sleep. After 2-3 weeks it reduced to every second night. After 6 months it was down to one night with nightmares n crap sllep every 3-4 weeks. Interestingly (for me anyway), at a dentist appintment about 2 months post seperation, the dentist noticed i had started grinding my teeth in my sleep and recommended reducing my stress levels or start wearing a mouth gaurd. At the next appointment, ud stopped grinding my teeth.

Content-Class1259 · 2025-04-23T04:51:15+00:00

When you realise that being treated like a POS is not the norm, and life without her is actually pretty good!

Title	Sleep and the nightmares
Author	Equivalent_Exit_804
Upvotes	12
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Date	April 23, 2025 4:38 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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