Hey everyone, Just wanted to let off a little steam. For background, Stbxw and I are separated 4 months now but still living/working in the same house and sharing kid duties. I've been full NC for weeks now, and have been working with my attorney to prepare for divorce. It is a hostile situation, she is super aggressive, controlling and verbally abusive, has previously accused me of crimes and threatened to call the police, claims to be the victim, etc. so anyway we had a sport event for our oldest (13) (we both show up but drive separately) today, and during half time she walks up to me and says: "don't make a scene in order to make appearances in front of all the parents and kids. Tell me what's going on, I want to know if we're getting divorced, etc". I did not respond at all; As if no one was even talking to me. I pointed to my phone, indicating she can email (the only form of contact I permit now), And then I walked away.
I firmly believe in the element of surprise when it comes to dealing with your enemy, which she has clearly demonstrated. Repeatedly.
This is very typical behavior of her, to use such tactics to control, gain leverage and pressure me into a socially acceptable response in her favor. (I.e. manipulation). In the past, I assure you this would have escalated into a public argument... Embarrassingly. But now, I've turned the corner, and in regard her as the enemy; I will never show that she can get to me. She will now play the victim, act all nice and sweet and naive, until she gets whatever she wants, and then back to viscous attack dog. It's why I think she has undiagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder - don't forget the part above about accusing me of crimes... Anyway, just sharing a story. Thanks for listening.