Ex-gf might have left me for someone else and lied about it. Help!

fathergoose77 · 2022-11-29T04:02:15+00:00

Welp, sounds like it wasn’t meant to be. Happens to most people at least once, but I know it hurts like hell. You’ll get though it. She sounds pretty immature and indecisive as a person (which isn’t super surprising for an teenager). I know it hurts right now, but this is one relationship in your life and you should take it as just a learning experience.

Maybe you can recognize some red flags now or some compatibility differences or life lessons. Young relationships are less likely to last, they also tend to be shorter. It’s often unwise to jump into a relationship right away, especially only after a kiss, y’all barely know each other. Maybe you learned some stuff about her personality that doesn’t match who you are as a person.

Something very important to keep in mind is that TRP takes hurtful experiences like one and applies it to ALL women. So please keep in mind that while this one teenager lied and broke up with you, you absolutely cannot apply it to all the women you will meet in the future. Keep this in mind and take care of yourself. Reach out to some friends or family if you have that option or do a hobby that makes you happy.

You probably don’t want to hear this, but in the scale of life, 3 months is very insignificant for a relationship. Give it some time and I think you will eventually find something more special and meaningful.

Artistic_Chip · 2022-11-29T03:55:32+00:00

Relationship only lasted 3 months, met at a party, doesn't sound like she was the one. All you can do is self improve and get back out there.

2022-11-29T04:37:17+00:00

She's 18...She was so great when we were together, I can't believe she would do this. Throw away our relationship just for some crush. She even said she wanted a future together and get married with me.

Dude, lower your expectations. She is just a freaking teenager. She probably doesn't even know herself well enough to know what she wants. You cannot expect someone that young and inexperienced in life to make a stable partner. At that age, most people are partying and having fun, not settling down with the person they are going to marry. How old are you even?

SweelFor- · 2022-11-29T08:54:57+00:00

Relationships are tough. Most relationships end. Breakups are tough.

You had a relationship, and then it stopped. People change their mind all the time, for good and bad reasons.

When a relationship ends, there is often no real reason for the person doing the break up, to give the full truth to the other person. Especially in a short relationship (3 months is short). She told you no because she didn't want to hurt your feelings. She realised she didn't want to be with you anymore, but she's not a bad person, so she tried to spare your feelings.

Breaking up with someone is difficult and most people will go for the path of least resistance, because they don't take pleasure in giving hurtful truths.

But some of it is coming back to me: Like the phrase "She's not yours, it's just your turn"

This is quitessential black pill non sense. Yes, black pill, you are right, people break up with each other. It's not a dark, secret truth. Everyone knows it, everyone does it, everywhere, all the time.

What this quote means is "people break up". Yep. No one has ever needed black pill to figure that out.

Men break up with women too. Black pill takes a mundane reality, looks at only one side of it, and proceeds to present it like some dark secret about women. There's no dark secret, and it's not one sided.

People break up, relationships end. All the time, for everyone, everywhere.

If break ups weren't hard, half of movies wouldn't be romantic comedies, half of songs wouldn't be about love, etc etc.

xvszero · 2022-11-29T20:11:35+00:00

Or even that parties are not a good place to meet someone for a long term relationship.

I mean, they're probably not. Especially if you barely know the person but you're already kissing right away, what is it even based off of at that point if not lust? I don't judge what consenting adults (or teens old enough to consent with each other) do but if you're looking for something serious you need to build a foundation first before you start throwing the drywall up. This isn't "red pill" it's just common sense.

3 months is basically nothing, she tried it out, it wasn't what she wanted, she moved on. That's fine. Don't get so attached so early on. Build something real and THEN get attached.

WWhiMM · 2022-11-29T03:38:05+00:00

Break-ups suck, it's too bad that it didn't work out.
You should follow her lead and block her social media and stop crawling through her tiktok. Maybe the cosmos will bring you two back together, but nothing good will come from chasing after her. Be grateful for having had a great relationship, and, when you're ready, go have another one (with a different person).

rosecolored_glasses · 2022-11-29T21:09:31+00:00

Three months is hardly a relationship. Move on.

TheLavaLeffel · 2022-11-29T16:44:33+00:00

she did you a favor. wish her well and start meeting new girls

thegilfhunter69 · 2022-11-29T19:32:57+00:00

Since no one seems to want to say it, yes...it sounds like she dumped you for someone else.

absolutebeginners · 2022-11-29T22:00:05+00:00

You guys are 18, people break up al the time. There is no deeper meaning here or some kind of lesson about society. Just someone who didn't like you any more.

Available-Ad-9338 · 2022-11-29T05:19:48+00:00

She's your ex. It's not your problem anymore. Move on.

Ifhes · 2022-11-29T20:42:00+00:00

Congratulation on spitting those ugly pills. You had some really great interpretations and insights there, like the fact parties are not a good place to meet someone for a long term relationship, which might not be true, but goes the right way. I'd say that becoming a couple with someone you just met should not generate the expectation that such relationship would be a long term one.

Also, bad selfish people exist in all shapes and forms, but there is not enough context to judge her for that. A lot of it depends on how much you two talked to each other about the relationship and yourselves.

Remember, the key to a stable healthy relationship starts with you. Know yourself, be honest with yourself and don't forget to commit to your own limits and more than everything communicate.

FormerRedPillWife · 2022-11-29T03:53:52+00:00

A better perspective is that you found out she's willing to discard people suddenly and even leave people without closure. She showed you parts of her and they're incompatible with a decent woman, as least at that age. Both sexes are really fickle and egotistical at that age though. But not all women are like that and you want one who will also respect you.

RedPillDetox · 2022-11-29T09:09:38+00:00

Don't worry, OP. Most women won't do that to you. She's 18 and a hoe. Also, first few months dating anything can happen so manage your expectations. Next!

Rook_Cross · 2022-12-06T15:39:02+00:00

"She even said she wanted a future together and get married with me." --- After 3 months? In almost all cases that is a big red flag. That's way too soon. You got too emotionally invested in a bad chick, that's all. Doesn't mean all women are like that. you don't need to talk to her to get closure, you need to stop your obsessing and negative thoughts. When they come up, do a different activity to get your mind off of it. Whatever her reasons, she's not the one for you. Learn from this and move on, rather than letting it hinder you for far longer than it needs to be. Women don't find the "it's only your turn" mindset attractive (because it's insulting and obviously not true). You could end up spoiling your next relationship bringing that bitterness to it, before it even fully begins. don't use a setback to excuse a full slide back. This is life, it's not always a success. You have to learn to deal with the disappointments in a healthy way, without becoming abusive.

fumb-cuck-shis-thit · 2023-04-16T13:20:07+00:00

Respectfully, you say you don't believe in red pill terms, yet you make points that don't contradict but even support it so is there something else going on here

Title	Ex-gf might have left me for someone else and lied about it. Help!
Author	Bored_Googling
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Comments	47
Date	November 29, 2022 2:34 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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