How to handle not getting texts back

xvszero · 2026-03-31T10:19:23+00:00

Bro.

I take 3-4 hours to text my wife back. Some of us have work to do.

Don't self sabotage. If she is going on dates then you're fine.

PriestessKikyo1 · 2026-03-31T12:46:05+00:00

Not everyone can or even likes to text back immediately, it may have zero to do with any feelings she has or doesn't have You are sabotaging by analyzing this too hard at an early stage

Inareskai · 2026-03-31T17:03:00+00:00

My husband basically ghosts me regularly. I don't think reading into how long it takes to text back is helpful.

ooa3603 · 2026-03-31T18:03:47+00:00

You've got your priorities in communication wrong:

Real life interaction is better than digital interactions. IRL is stronger show of interest than texting.

A person that physically shows up to go out with you is more invested than a frequent texter. Because it takes more effort.

Not to mention if you have a life (hobbies, pursuits and goals etc) you're going to be busy doing them, not being attached to your phone.

I’m struggling with how to go about this situation.

The only thing you need to do work on managing your anxiety so that you don't get mentally thrown off by a few hours of non contact.

And even if she does lose interest, it doesn't mean its necessarily your fault.

I suggest you read this: The Anxiety Toolkit by Alex Boyes

ClueLazy834 · 2026-03-31T20:56:57+00:00

Who cares if someone isn’t interested in you? She has a job, friends, other things in life - she isn’t going to focus on you entirely.

I think the first issue is you have to get over not being picked. That’s what draws so many people into this ideology in the first place - our fear of being alone!

Stop wasting your life worried about how others feel about you. Many of us go through life with no partner for a long time, we focus on work, hobbies, friends, roommates, etc.

Temporary_Client9353 · 2026-03-31T15:36:29+00:00

Cara… que ridiculo, desculpa.

Temporary_Client9353 · 2026-03-31T15:39:15+00:00

Louco como vcs preferem coisas como filosofia redpill pra resolver uma questão de apego / trauma emocional, ao inves de buscarem se conhecer atraves da psicoterapia ou terapias integrativas ! Criar seus metodos e tecnologias pra otimizar sua vida, isso nao tem nada ver com relacionamentos ou mulheres, e sim com um apego inseguro severo, CUIDE DA SUA SAUDE MENTAL

mylesaway2017 · 2026-04-01T20:32:01+00:00

You should only be worried if she's not responding at all.

Password-55 · 2026-04-01T11:09:24+00:00

I‘m insecure about that stuff to. Less so since going to therapy and reflecting on it. Can you afford going to therapy on betterhelp or something.

I think it‘s good to healthily reflect on why do I feel this way? Does it make sense, maybe, if you feel safe enough you can even talk about it, with the person you are meeting.

I think it‘s normal. When I get caught up in the day or either do not see the phone or I want to take the time to answer in the right way, so I reflect on it first.

Texting has a huge potential for miscommunication, because there is no face or gestures with the words. Important context is missing.

DearElise · 2026-04-06T03:51:48+00:00

It’s hard to tell from text habits alone. Sometimes when the bond becomes deeper, people also text faster when they feel more comfortable. My advice is not to play games if you’re trying to build something real (eg text back a day if she takes a day). Women pick up easily on these things. Try to create a safe environment. If she doesn’t reciprocate your efforts, that’s all the message you need. Attachment styles aside, let’s assume she is indeed busy or maybe you have anxiety, you should still be asking yourself “do I feel safe with this person” “can I trust this person”. As time passes, feelings of safety should be more and more. Stop psychoanalyzing her and analyze yourself if you feel safe or not. No point forming a bond with someone who doesn’t make you feel safe and reciprocated. That’s how you avoid being strung along. But yeah be yourself don’t play games. Text back instantly if it’s what you would do. Be gradually vulnerable overtime even with small things like that and see if she recipocrates.

ActivityTop8834 · 2026-05-05T03:37:56+00:00

read this https://substack.com/@imayeshab/note/p-179840828?r=89oohi&utm\_medium=ios&utm\_source=notes-share-action

No_Gur_6171 · 2026-03-31T07:17:07+00:00

The medium is the message

No_Gur_6171 · 2026-03-31T08:29:42+00:00

Her non response is the message

elliYEET- · 2026-03-31T06:19:27+00:00

I think they do it on purpose to see if we have other options or hobbies & are secure. Was in this situation last year & it bothered me so I double texted. Don’t do that lol. Just keep yourself busy mate.

Title	How to handle not getting texts back
Author	sturgeo123
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Comments	37
Date	March 31, 2026 4:28 AM UTC (3 months ago)
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