Realistic Red Flags?

Snoo52682 · 2022-03-18T14:30:51+00:00

Anyone who has a negative reaction to a simple boundary or disagreement.

Meat_Vegetable · 2022-03-18T13:55:01+00:00

Red Flags:

1) if they only talk negatively about everyone around them, even their friends.

2) Too deep into conspiracy theories to see the sky is blue.

3) Bugs me every second of the day demanding every minute of my existence be in service to giving them attention.

vaporwav3r · 2022-03-18T20:41:43+00:00

People who cannot admit they’re wrong, even if it’s something small.

Amicus156 · 2022-03-18T20:59:34+00:00

Two biggest red flags for me:

lying -- if I can't trust you, the relationship is doomed; and
people who don't genuinely care about other people. This sort of goes to trust, but don't waste your time with someone who isn't genuinely invested in other people. If they can't invest in others, they won't invest in you. That will lead to an inequitable relationship.

Naus1987 · 2022-03-18T14:23:03+00:00

Anything with the science behind it seems reasonable to me. Statistically, people are pretty terrible and have a bad track record of making massive mistakes, lol.

My general go-to red flag is to examine someone’s risk/reward thinking.

I only date someone to marry, so I’d want to make sure they’re not extremely risky without having a good reward attached to it. Gambling is bad risky, but investing in a business sounds reasonable.

Mental illness can make people do really terrible stuff. But if they got it under control then that’s a good thing. I always consider therapy a green flag. Knowing you don’t know everything and look for help is a green flag.

At the end of the day I just don’t want a risk taker who will gamble with my time or money. Risk without reward is the biggest red flag to me

AntiVictimhood · 2022-03-18T17:51:19+00:00

My personal red flags/ dealbreakers

- Lack of impulse control/inability to delay gratification

- Financially irresponsible

- Substance abuse

- A man who un-ironically calls himself "alpha" or "high value"

- Zero long term friends (learned this the hard way with my ex. If someone has literally no long terms friends and poor relationships with their family, in my experience, they are the common denominator and often the reason for this pattern of failed relationships.)

- Lack of self awareness

- Inability to admit wrong doing or to sincerely apologize.

- Inability to take accountability for the impacts of their words/actions.

- Idealizing extreme wealth, status, beauty, luxury goods as supreme values rather than nice things to have in moderation. I understand and relate to wanting financial stability, to have nice things, and aspire to beauty and health- but people who are obsessed with the display of wealth and want their money/status to be their main character trait- dealbreaker.

The only redpill-esque red flag that I do agree with is having a very high number of sexual partners. And I know people will disagree with me on this, and that's fine. I'm not trying to say this should be a dealbreaker for everyone. As I've gotten older and encountered more people with a very high body count, I do understand why it's a red flag to men and women.

Lauren_Aa · 2022-03-18T23:32:08+00:00

For me, a red flag is:

1- The man is liberal, atheist/agnostic, believes in the horoscope. It just means he'll give me trouble about church and God in the future (when we'll have a family).

2- The man uses make-up/nail polish and/or uses feminine clothes (if he says clothes have no gender).

3- He generalizes women and say we're all into money, we're all whores, we're all liars and we all take advantage of men (basically, MGTOW).

4- He's a feminist ally (I'm an anti-feminist woman).

5- If the man supports LGBT, Socialism, BLM (woke culture in general).

That's basically it.

Title	Realistic Red Flags?
Author	Brighr51
Upvotes	12
Comments	21
Date	March 18, 2022 1:48 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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