This shit really effected my self esteem and I don’t know how to get back to normal again

Busy_Zone9587 · 2024-06-20T18:10:51+00:00

The word you’re looking for is misanthropic.

You’re young. It’s important to get real life experience with dating, and form impressions based on that.

It’s a common pitfall of youth to take what they read online to heart. However, if you were able to peer into the lives of the individuals writing these posts, I doubt you would ascribe to them so easily.

On a slightly separate note, you need to focus on finding value within yourself outside of the opposite gender. This is extremely important in building character and self esteem.

Once again, you are young. You will not feel this way forever. It is a growing opportunity.

HelenHavok · 2024-06-20T19:31:37+00:00

Men are not a monolith. There are some who will treat you as a series of holes or a personal servant. Most people are looking for more in a relationship though. You are a fully-actualized human being with value apart and above what you can do for someone else.

Stop consuming content that is hurting you. When people try to quit an addiction, they have more success if they substitute, like having a pen in your pocket to fiddle with or chew on when you try to stop smoking or substitute seltzer water for soda. My alcoholic roommate quit booze by eating gummy candy and ice cream instead (okay, maybe not the healthiest option, but it worked well for him). Point is, you need to make a plan for how you are going to stay away from this content, what other thing you’re going to do with that time, otherwise it may draw you back in.

A lot of what you describe sounds like clinical depression, like the overall disinterest in people and goals and activities you once enjoyed. I think you should go to a school counselor or trusted teacher and tell them that you’re not feeling very good right now and life is overwhelming and sad. They’re there to help you.

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, friend, and hope you can feel better soon.

Sure-Mechanic2883 · 2024-07-12T20:19:58+00:00

same!! It's depressing and I want it to go away!!

kardinalkalamity · 2024-07-20T21:04:05+00:00

Join a hobby club. Ex knitting or something. I am not joking, having a hobby that has a physical result does wonder for 1) feeling accomplished 2) unfocusing from your body as your worth. Having hobbies, socializing with people in real life, and curating your online experience are key here. Block the redpill pages and influencers. Leave the social media you have a tendency to doomscroll on. Irl socializing is important to help realize that like. 90% irl don't even know what the fuck redpill means. I know it's easy to fall down that hole and to start diminishing yourself like that, but you are a person, and you deserve respect, even from yourself!

chinchillazilla54 · 2024-06-20T18:12:16+00:00

I'm gonna tell you something I wish I'd heard when I was a 17-year-old girl, 17 years ago. If you cut down on social media and stop seeking out things online that make you feel bad, you will become approximately one billion percent happier. I know that's easier said than done, but oh my god, it's a genuine game-changer, girl.

It feels like the damage is already done, but I promise, you will stop obsessing and worrying about this stuff if you just log off and start living your life in the real world instead. People offline are mostly very normal. The people who believe this stuff are very rare but very loud online.

trashlurch · 2024-06-20T18:41:36+00:00

Sounds like you internalized some of the stuff you read. That's going to happen when you engage with a lot of that content. Human brains unfortunately work like that - the more often we hear an idea repeated to us the more we believe it's true. I'd say there's two things you should do:

1.) Detox from that ideology! If you realize that a mindset is toxic/wrong don't listen to it over and over again. Instead engage with the ideas of people who are sane and reasonable and kind. Internalize their worldview instead.

2.) This way of thinking has a name, right? Misogyny. Try to learn to think of it as what it really is - not the secret truth about the world but an ideology that some people hold and that other people have been fighting against for literal generations. Place these thoughts were they belong - with a bunch of vile men not with you.

It might help to engage in content made about misogyny or content that critizises trp to distance yourself from these thoughts again. You could also try to look up serious feminist writings if you're interested in that sort of thing.

wasted_basshead · 2024-06-20T18:47:51+00:00

I would definitely go through a detox. & don’t worry, you’re not worthless and anyone who’s worth anything doesn’t hate you💜 if you get hate because you’re a girl then that’s just ignorance on their end. You’ll be okay, hon. Just hang in there and surround yourself with better communities/people. You got this(:

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2024-06-20T19:11:26+00:00

The redpill is not based on any science, it is just a scam to get ad clicks and ebook sales . Detox from it asap. I don't even get why teenagers are reading it. It is intentionally written as ragebait. It is designed that way: the salespitch will start with something mild with something like "men and women are different, read on to learn how". then as you read on, it just says a bunch of [fictional] stuff to make you mad, and it is intentionally worded to stick with you, even if you know it is garbage. Then, it moves to claiming it has the cure for it.

I have another post that spells it out more, but it's not exactly age appropriate. Anyways, get off the redpill and go hang out with friends offline. Worry about school and stuff first. Worry about grifters scamming angry dudes when you are much older, like 100.

Substantial_Chest395 · 2024-06-20T20:11:49+00:00

Go watch Shera7 on YouTube. Trust me. You’re welcome.

sunnierrside · 2024-06-20T22:37:11+00:00

That feeling you describe when you don’t read TRP content sounds quite clearly like addiction. In addition to some great advice already shared here, I would seek out information on dealing with addiction.

If you have access to a quality therapist, that could also really help you figure out the best next steps for you to heal.

As a recovering alcoholic, kicking the addiction often takes care of the depression too. But treating the underlying issues that probably led you here is also necessary to stay on a healthier path.

Good luck! It’s worth the hard work to get color back into your life.

Specialist_Copy9355 · 2024-06-20T23:35:04+00:00

You’re human and you’re valuable, regardless of your sex or your gender. Those things don’t define you, they’re just one aspect of who you are. Many redpillers are insecure men who have created an incorrect narrative to rationalize their mediocrity & inability to get women.

I’m not trying to diagnose you, but as someone with OCD, it does sound like you may be ruminating, and that watching/viewing red pill content is like a compulsion for you. This reaction to this content is out of the norm, particularly for a woman. Please seek help from the social supports you have in your life (and mental health professionals if you have access). Regardless, though it may be difficult to stop watching the content, you probably should because of how much distress it is causing you.

If you can’t stop watching it, maybe it would help to watch content of intelligent people debating/debunking it. The streamer Destiny has made some content about red pill ideas and has been on some of the popular shows. Hunter Avallone has also made some content discussing it.

I wish you healing. No one has the world completely figured out, don’t trust people that say they do.

whocleans4you · 2024-06-21T00:11:39+00:00

I remember stumbling into this space years ago, not much older than you. I went searching after it seemed like many guys on Facebook were communicating in some secret language they all seemed to share… This was when ther3dp!// was still on Reddit before their own website. I was horrified and struggled with some of what you’re struggling with now.

I was more depressed that this was the stance many guys my age were subscribing to, that they hated my kind, and so clearly my dating optics were abysmal. I threw myself into work, bought a house at 21, and worked on myself and my nest egg. The guys with a brain will start to get over this mindset between 25-30. Don’t worry 😉 STOP READING IT! Jump apps or throw the phone down if you find yourself consuming it. Work on you and what you want (outside of romantic companionship). You’ll meet someone whole when you’re whole. Young men (and people in general) are attracted to power and TRP offers them a very large, albeit false sense of power. The real world will continually smack them in the face through their teens and 20s. Focus on you and your wants and ride out the storm until the boys come home detoxed.

Raging_Dragon_9999 · 2024-06-21T02:35:17+00:00

Get off your phone, get off the internet and go interact with real people.

Patient-Fly-9104 · 2024-07-05T16:20:06+00:00

I’m sorry you are going through that. I think it is quite easy to fall int the trap of feeling worthless and lesser than men, because to some extend it is what society still teaches us (at least on a subliminal level). But I think it is important to know, that sometimes thoughts and feelings are just that, they are not the truth. I am not trying to minimize what you are going through in any way however, clearly there is a lot of pain there. but the good thing is, you are in control and you are capable to change your situation even though it probably doesn’t feel like it right now. There are also resources out there, and there is no shame in reaching out and asking for support if you need it. I think a redial detox would be a great idea if you can manage. Be kind to yourself, start slow and keep going. You are worth it and I hope you know these feelings you have will pass, if you work on what you consume. for now I wish you a lot of strength and hope you will be able to recognize that your worth is in no way tied to your gender, your looks or your experiences.

tallandducky · 2024-07-10T13:13:31+00:00

Beware of your feed. A while back I thought it would be nice to get a cabin in the mountains off grid to go toas a vacation. Not to live. As I researched more and more about off grid living, the algorithm slowly pushed content about prepping. If you don’t know, prepping people Believe society is going to implode violently and you need to build a self-sufficient homestead/farm and have the weapons and other means to keep it from other people trying to take it from you that led to a bunch of self-defense things and culminated in me being insanely stressed and agitated and prone to anger. Culminated for me when I caught myself starting to think about creating a pack out list for a shipping container to have buried at GPS location known only to me with everything I would need to re-create modern society if there was a “great collapse “

I only tell you my story to show you how quickly YouTube and Facebook and Instagram can shift your perspective by what you allow in

When it came to dating sites, I got curious about some of the really bad things that have happened and wanted to know how to avoid them. This same algorithm started feeding me all of the worst human behavior.

Intentionally cultivate your feed so it is filled with positive self improvement, oriented content, and start saying you’re not interested on the types of videos you or other women down

redreefmedia · 2024-06-24T20:00:50+00:00

Your OG Uncle red pill here. I am Gen X. I grew up outside of all this social media junk. And that's what it is… Junk. You have to understand that women are part of a hive mind. Try not to be so easily lead by other females and you will be much happier in life.

Title	This shit really effected my self esteem and I don’t know how to get back to normal again
Author	Adrillai
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Date	June 20, 2024 5:44 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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