So, I rushed into marriage with a man who did everything right before we got married and I had no idea about FDS- I have just come upon all this now when shit has hit the fan.

Now that we’re married he has completely changed. He is with friends in all his free hours- doing nothing- they sit and watch tv all night. Any time he spends at home is mostly on his phone or sleeping. There’s no time for me

I cook and clean, he has never offered help nor has he ever thanked me or acknowledged anything.

He doesn’t make a lot of money so I’ve been doing all the grocery shopping. He hasn’t given me a single thing since we got married. We don’t go out or do anything together. Before marriage we would regularly go out on dates and weekends away.

When I go away to friends, he doesn’t call or message. He has stopped putting an effort in to foreplay. He is very well mannered and all and there is no abuse as such. But there’s no appreciation, no acknowledgement

He just takes and takes and takes. I’ve told him I need more time and attention from him- he’s fine one day and then back to his old tricks. Yesterday, I was really hurt because he told me to call him on Snapchat and not on his phone line because then it will be busy for other important calls. I haven’t spoken to him since then.

I’m stuck! I just got married a few months ago. Shall I just up and leave? I would love too, but I can’t deal with his emotions right now and I’m not in a position to ghost because of the marriage