So many men that I've matched with, or profiles I've seen have "I'm not on this app much" and want to either text or use another app (???)

a) bullshit, it's an app, just like all the other apps, how can you not be on it

b) he's got notifications off for shady reasons

c) more bullshit, men are obsessed with checking their ego boosts and new matches, they don't have the self-control to not check.

d) if he's really looking for a relationship he wouldn't want to miss out on a good woman

e) he's deleting the app (usually Tinder) so his wife/gf won't find it

f) he's re-installing it to trawl for validation and hook-ups once a week while hiding in the bathroom

g) he's using other apps that delete messages or don't sync to other devices that his wife uses.

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  1. Download Tinder, make profile, get matches / save pics of women to wank to / fluff your ego
  2. Secure other methods of contacting women
  3. Delete Tinder
  4. Re-install Tinder to check messages / get more pics
  5. Lie to yourself that you're not cheating or looking up real porn

Go into his battery settings and check app usage. "Calculator" is an app that can store images, no-one is using a calculator for 10 hours a week. There might be hours on "Deleted" apps.

Go into the app store and type in the regular dating apps, even Grindr. If it has a re-install icon instead of the download one, he's previously downloaded it. Load it again and see if his full profile and recent matches and conversations and new matches come up. If he was the one to bring up the "we should de-activate our dating profiles" talk and you got a gut feeling, it's probably because he wanted YOU to de-activate, and trust him, so he had no competition for you while he kept slinging dick.

"We should de-activate" is not a commitment talk.

Any words out of his mouth about how he didn't install it, he must have been hacked, his coworker did it, his friends did it as a joke, he was just looking, seeing what's out there, was having a last hurrah before he proposes (hahahah), blames you for not giving him enough attention, he was depressed, stressed, bored, feeling unloved, wanted the ego boost, is all bullshit. Drop him immediately.