Don't drop your standards. Effort and being high-maintenance is the most effective filter you have against substandard relationships. And being on your own is far preferable to dulling your shine for weak, shitty dudes.

ginellwiththewind · 2020-09-28T03:59:27+00:00

I hate guys like this. The “you’re too good for me” guys. Or the ones constantly asking what you see in them. It’s all an ego boost for them.

If a man says that he can’t see why a woman would be interested in him- believe him. There are major major flaws and he’s literally telling on himself.

ello-motto · 2020-09-28T14:01:08+00:00

Anyone else want to do this, but towards their NV family members?

I feel like us women should also remember not to take this shit from NV/LV tendency friends, family and coworkers/acquaintances too.

For me, I have extended family members with narc tendencies who I've realised have been negging me and lowkey putting me down for a very long time. I almost wonder if this is why I put up with so much shit from my negging ex as well. I built such a tolerance by lowering the standards of the type of behaviour I accepted, that I put up with shades of the same behaviour from the guy I dated.

Inspection-Critical · 2020-09-28T14:54:16+00:00

/u/basedbecky, where'd you find this? I tried googling but nothing came up.

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2020-09-29T00:13:33+00:00

*shudder* I've dated a man like this. Who would constantly ask "why would someone so beautiful date me?"

The relationship was RIFE with jealousy and he was convinced that every single male in my life was involved with me. It was toxic and unhealthy and he really made me feel guilty about having male friendships that I've had for years.

This was when I was new to dating and inexperienced.... GOD I hope nobody has to go through that, but statistically, I know someone out there is going through it and I just hope it doesn't last.

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