I've talked about my mom a few times on this sub because she's Based as fuck and an amazing example of FDS in action. She raised me as a single mom, dated who she wanted, received MANY marriage proposals and had men basically falling all over themselves her entire life, until she finally settled down with a super high value, wealthy, hard-working, adventurous guy who spoils her rotten at the age of 48.

Any time I'm having guy troubles, I always call my mom and she tells me the same thing: "Liz, don't waste your pretty years".

Not in some fake-ass Red Pilled "The Wall" kind of way (the wall doesn't exist, at least not for women, and especially not if we're taking care of ourselves). She means it in a, "why are you settling for this bum ass loser?" kind of way.

Being single in our 20s, 30s and 40s is the time to fucking have fun. Hustling, learning, creating, traveling, growing. Building those strong female friendships that will outlast most relationships with men you'll have. Go on lots of dates, meet lots of people. 99.9% of the dates you go on won't be your person, and that's more than okay. You aren't trapped in your geographical location, maybe your dude is in Morocco? Maybe he's in Australia? Limiting your experiences and your life to a 10-mile radius is so 20th century. We have the internet, my dudes.

If you're obsessing about not getting a text back or mulling over some dumb shit your stupid boyfriend just said, stop that. Don't waste your pretty years. Don't settle for a relationship that won't work because you're afraid of being alone with your own thoughts. Become a person who is the life of her own party, and eventually you'll find that person that enhances your own good time. If you feel like less than a whole person, you're not ready for a relationship, particularly not in the current OLD landscape where modern dating threatens to eviscerate your self-esteem at any second, AMIRIGHT?

Ladies. Listen to my mom. Don't waste your pretty years. If your friends are telling you that your dude is trash, let him go. If your dude is giving you mixed signals, those aren't mixed. Those are red flags. One of my favorite quotes and the inspiration I've had to end various toxic relationships in my life goes like this: "Don't keep making a mistake just because you spent a lot of time making it." This applies to everything:

  • Having sex with fuck boys to get a hit of validation even though you KNOW you'll feel like shit for days after
  • Staying in a bad, toxic, go-nowhere relationship with someone you don't respect
  • Agreeing to "hang outs" with men you can tell wouldn't make a good spouse or father
  • Prioritizing everyone elses' needs over your own, being guilted or shamed into sex or intimacy
  • Not taking the absolute best care of yourself possible

Life is short. If you're not working on your goals and yourself, it'll pass you by before you had a chance to shape it how you want it to go. Don't let shitty relationships and shitty men distract you from you who want to become and the life you want to live.