If you are feeling resentful in your relationship you are giving too much. Give less.

Never give so much that when the relationship ends you feel bitter, resentful or taken advantage of.

Years ago I was in a relationship where I moved in with the guy too early. I did cook for him but only when I was cooking for myself. (Mostly scrambled eggs with veggies, quesadillas, soups and sandwiches. Absolutely nothing extravagant!) I just made extra. And I always left every bit of the clean-up to him. He would pretend that it took him a really long time. I never once helped him. That was his job. I figured he could either take forever doing it or learn how to do it faster like an adult. I would walk away and go sit in my room relaxing or doing homework while he spent an hour cleaning up from scrambled eggs with veggies!

He wouldn't clean, so I didn't clean. (I would never be in a relationship like this again but this was my first real relationship and the first time I ever lived with someone) I'm so happy I didn't clean even though it killed me.

He grew up with a maid so he would walk into the bedroom and just literally throw his clothing, his shoes, his book bag right on the floor in the middle of the room. One time I got pissed when I tripped over one of those shoes and I kicked everything into the corner and his pocket change went flying across the tile floor. I let him pick it up.

He would say he didn't want me to be his maid but then he would act like this. Not pick up after himself, not cook for himself, not clean for himself. But I damn well didn't do it. He was responsible for his own laundry and his own cleaning.

He brought me things, did the man stuff, took me out, complimented me, gave me fantastic sex... I accepted.

I never gave him gifts or money. (Beyond a card, flowers and dinner out for his birthday)

Later he became abusive and we did eventually break up. Of all of my misgivings the one thing I don't regret is giving too much and being his servant. I am so glad I didn't act like his mommy or his servant! I really had to fight that urge to step in and do everything.

Don't give so much that you will be resentful and feel stupid when the relationship ends. Decide beforehand what you are willing to give to a relationship. What you are willing to lose in a relationship. You should never be put in your future or your finances or your dignity in jeopardy.

Give less.