FDS isn't advising women to wait for sex just to make the man wait. That means nothing.

We are waiting for sex until we are fully comfortable. Until we feel safe with him. Until we are satisfied that he is committed to us and sees the potential future in our relationship, and we see one with him. We are waiting until we are secure. And that security is based on his actions.

We are not making him wait for sex as a punishment or to control him, and it certainly isn't abuse like the idiot incel woman haters try to say.

We aren't waiting solely to avoid being used tricked or led on. We are also waiting until we feel completely relaxed and can release into sexual union with this person in comfort.

Our society has worked so hard to cheapen sex into this meaningless throwaway thing. But the reality is we are letting a man into our body. It is a union. It makes us vulnerable. Before having sex with someone we should be asking ourselves "Is this somebody I want to be attached to? In love with? Totally vulnerable to?" We also have to work to maintain perspective so we can leave if the mask falls or things don't work out.

Sex is also part of the vetting process. We are looking for porn addiction, listening skills, follow through, consideration, protective instinct and the quality of the sex, among other things.

It's not "make him wait", it's ask yourself if you feel secure.