How do you stay content in a relationship?

whycantweallgetal0ng · 2019-11-14T17:24:01+00:00

You stay content in a relationship by having it with a compatible person.

Contrary to popular opinion, signs of discontent do not mean that "something is wrong with you and you need to try harder."

honeybadgeroo · 2019-11-14T17:34:06+00:00

Don't date someone's potential. See him as he is right now - do you want to be with this man as is 5 years, 10 years down the line?

2019-11-14T17:45:27+00:00

I noticed some amber flags in your comment:

You describe the relationship as only "ok"
He doesn't work
You went in it for the potential
You want him to be something he's not because things aren't going according to your plan

I don't see why you're sticking around. It's either you leave him or you adjust your perception so that he is more than what he represents to you (his lucrative field). It's up to you.

FemclFleshBeckyBones · 2019-11-14T18:40:27+00:00

It's interesting to me that you came here to FDS to ask about how to be content with this low effort male. This mindset, of attempting to make yourself happy being with him despite his lack of initiative and work ethic, is not FDS at all. It's more in line with RPW.

You never date potential. In FDS you always take men at face value. If he's this lazy now, how do you know he will even get a job when the time comes? I wouldn't be surprised if he drags his feet about that. Are you willing to put up with the very real possibility that he will never change? That you will end up supporting him while he lazes about?

If not, dump him.

FuturePigeon · 2019-11-14T17:06:55+00:00

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Vespe50 · 2019-11-14T20:49:06+00:00

I think you should stay with a man you value/respect. There are a ton of men with good job, maybe he is not the right guy for you?

Ms_Tilly · 2019-11-14T20:00:48+00:00

Devil's advocate. Maybe he is relaxing a bit for now because he knows his life is about to become super career oriented and he won't have the time anymore. I did that in my early 20s. I had a good job and only needed to work a couple days a week. I also lived in a resort town. Those were the days. Once I got bored with that after a few years, I got serious and went back into college and worked 2-3 jobs around my classes for financial stability and extra cash for expensive trips, which are my thing.

Or he half asses his career the same as he does now and not a damm thing changes.

Does he know how you feel about his apparent lack of motivation? Does he make good grades? Does he talk positively and excitedly about the career he's getting into and possible future jobs and plans?

Deadgirl1888 · 2019-11-14T21:55:46+00:00

Use him for a free place to stay focus on getting good grades then leave and start your life.

UKFeminst38 · 2019-11-14T17:15:19+00:00

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