I hope she gets picked 🤡

EclecticBarbarella · 2020-06-16T20:10:55+00:00

False equivalency. I can be financially independent and still be with someone who wants to take care of me as well. Just because he wants to be a provider doesn’t mean I have to sit on my ass and iron his underwear like she seems to think.

umbralgarden · 2020-06-17T01:36:19+00:00

Equality is a man doing 50% of all domestic work, emotional labour, pregnancy, child birth and child care and reciprocating every emotional need. Funny how women will be expected to do all of that but only be seen as equal to men if they pay 50% of the bills.

grand_tiremaster · 2020-06-16T21:35:35+00:00

Why not both? You can make your own money and still be taken care of by a man. Not gonna go 50/50 on dates lol

atreethatkeepsgrowin · 2020-06-16T20:07:03+00:00

You wanna be trapped with an abuser? because that is how you get trapped with an abuser.

informallory · 2020-06-17T00:18:45+00:00

She says that but doesn’t pull her wallet out on a first date. Ok sis.

I believe this to an extent, no a long term committed husband or partner is not your debit card, but in the beginning he needs to prove to you that he wants a relationship with you. Splitting dinner, splitting drinks, splitting a movie? You’re just his pal that he fucks.

understatedalways · 2020-06-16T20:07:24+00:00

I’m so glad I didn’t have to work during my horrific pregnancies or afterwards when they were newborns since I picked a provider for a partner. That chick is a clown.

fernprincess · 2020-06-17T01:15:31+00:00

Lol, next man who says he wants to be my “partner” gets asked for a 20k buy-in to my business.

2020-06-16T20:17:06+00:00

Desiree said what she said! I am financially independent but I also want a provider and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

_boring_daven_ · 2020-06-17T04:45:26+00:00

“A partner should not be your bank account” this should go both ways though. If he doesn’t take care of you then he probably expects you to buy him a PS5

Novemberinthechair · 2020-06-17T11:16:51+00:00

Um, she seems to think sexism was solved. Men and women still aren't socio-economical equals.

LadyGrimes · 2020-06-16T20:34:22+00:00

Fuck that noise, that is how you end up trapped.

loudest_gusset · 2020-06-17T13:21:58+00:00

Right now, I would lose my shit and "go to the bathroom" if I had to sit there at a restaurant pulling a calculator out to split a date bill. Spending all that time and money to look hot, be interesting, cultured, intelligent, and successful and some bum wants to pinch pennies when he's supposed to try and impress me? Or worse, split a bill in half when he orders more expensive shit than I do? That's a hard pass.

I spent so much money on schooling, traveling, personal training, hair salons, clothes, not to mention time and effort to craft myself into the woman sitting across from you on a date. In my pickmeisha days I would happily split the bill to "prove" I was a feminist. Now, after taking into consideration all I've done to make myself so awesome, and in effect such a valuable partner, no amount of dates men pay for will ever reach 50/50. Still I'm a feminist, except I am experienced enough to know equality isn't the goal; it's equity (an example using college financial aid)

2020-06-16T22:00:29+00:00

I saw someone post this, read the comments under the post and just stayed quiet. The “pick-me” “50/50” mentality prevails...

sadpourtoujours · 2020-06-16T21:51:09+00:00

Preach Desiree!

MissFifi1097 · 2020-06-17T02:36:28+00:00

Yeah yeah next

KaLona9 · 2020-06-17T14:59:42+00:00

In my opinion men are not ATMs but women are not housekeepers either. What I think we are supposed to be are partners, helping each other through this thing called life to the best of our abilities. If the man wants to take care of the woman, that's perfectly fine, or if the woman wants to be the sole provider, that's also fine, as long as it's consentual. Do whatever arrangement fits you as long as it's not hurting anyone, including you.

Title	I hope she gets picked 🤡
Author	Pinkapple_
Upvotes	165
Comments	22
Date	June 16, 2020 7:58 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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