That is just not the case.

30/f.

In 2020 I decided to bite the bullet and lose 35 pounds. I didn't feel like myself and I wanted to feel better. I lost the 35 pounds and felt on top of the world.

I moved out on my own, I was paying my bills and taking care of myself. I felt really good about that. So good that I started dating again, but to my avail, I was going on countless unsuccessful dates.

This went on for 2 years.

I've done a lot of work on my inner self before the weight loss, after a turbulent life, but was still dealing with a deeply rooted self esteem issue and attachment issues. This showed up in all my unsuccessful situationships.

I didn't know why I was still fundamentally unhappy and unsuccessful.

It only hit me yesterday. Yes, my life improved, yes, I improved myself in many areas of life, but my fundamental issue of low self esteem and attachment issues was still at the fore front. I was putting my energy into something I am not ready to do just yet.

I deleted my dating profiles and I am vowing to take at least a year off dating to continue to level up my life and mental health.

I am grateful for the insight.

Wish you all a successful 2022!