I(22f) always get ghosted.

AyemHerself · 2020-01-13T03:24:54+00:00

Also I realize I’m very gullible so if a guy is sweet to me I’ll sleep with him on the first date.

This is what you're doing wrong.

These guys are looking to pump and dump. You give them what they want, so they move on to the next.

Waiting to have sex won't keep these particular guys around long, but it will remove them from your dating pool and let you focus your energy on finding a man with more substance.

TokiMarvel · 2020-01-13T04:27:52+00:00

Something is very sus about this post.

smittydoodle · 2020-01-13T04:11:42+00:00

You answered your own question in your post.

psychsense · 2020-01-13T04:27:14+00:00

When women sleep with a man on the first date, a lot of times we are open to more and it isn’t the end all be all from our perspective. But when men sleep with women on the first date, they only view you as a sexual object from there on out. They have degraded you in their mind and have made judgments about how hard it was to get you to agree to it. They assume if you did it with them then you do it with every first date, whether its true or not. When they get good sex with one women, they’re also quick to find a reason to cut things off with you while riding on the ego boost you gave him. He now thinks all women are like this and he is really something special. Even if they’ve managed to stick around after two- three dates, they’ve already made up their minds about you. They will probably get in touch with you next time their horny but they don’t care for you or even view you as an equal. They will not respect you- not if you sleep with them on the first date. I understand it’s annoying you have to hold out, especially when you may want to know if there’s sexual chemistry before continuing a relationship with someone, but ultimately it’s in your best interest. And it beats the constant rejection- which you will internalize and start to question if something is wrong with who you are as a person, but it’s not you- its them.

thesleeplesss · 2020-01-13T06:25:00+00:00

Official after 2 dates? That's probably not a good idea. How do you know he's a HVM? You need to do your due diligence and vet thoroughly before even considering exclusivity. I think you're too available

Edit: elaborated

teeteereads · 2020-01-13T04:09:19+00:00

“Official” how?

Lil_Doll404 · 2020-01-13T06:00:32+00:00

Please dont have sex with guys on the first date anymore. I think sometimes women forget that sex for men and women have different meanings. You shouldnt even be having sex with them in the first week.🤦‍♀️

the-red_woman · 2020-01-13T13:22:36+00:00

You should be waiting 3 months to have sex! No excuses. In your case because you always get dumped, i’d say even more like 4 months. Why do you have no self control? Is it a self esteem issue do you think?

shecreatedherdream · 2020-01-13T12:41:38+00:00

Ask yourself this: what are my standards if I fall for every man who takes me out once? Don’t you want to choose too? Are you only something to be ‘selected’ tasted and discarded???

Give yourself time to see if YOU want this man.

Watch this: https://youtu.be/EbmhSkF3kss

Title	I(22f) always get ghosted.
Author	shygirl200
Upvotes	0
Comments	17
Date	January 13, 2020 1:53 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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