Insecure around certain women?

Cosmictears83 · 2020-07-23T04:40:55+00:00

Why would you feel inferior for not being a Pickmeisha and getting low quality attention?

PR0N0IA · 2020-07-23T03:48:42+00:00

I’m (f26) happily married to a wonderful man. When I was your age, I’d feel uncomfortable around women who did drugs, partied, slept around, and just generally acted like what this sub would call pickme’s. It made me uncomfortable because I was worried they’d negatively impact me or influence me to be more like that. I’ve found its important to surround yourself mostly with people you look up to and want to emulate. Is it possible that you’re mistaking feeling uncomfortable with them not being people you want to emulate with you being insecure around them?

reina_nova · 2020-07-23T03:22:32+00:00

I don't associate with anyone who does drugs - male or female. That's a quick way to get arrested and ruin your future.

heythere360 · 2020-07-23T07:06:56+00:00

I’m very much a socialite and a party girl and those girls would make me feel exceedingly uncomfortable.

You’re going to parties where the people are obsessed with drugs and sex and the men are rejecting you cause you won’t put out...

I understand random house parties are a staple of the college experience but it sounds to me you’re growing out of that stage (if you were ever really into it to begin with).

I used to like house parties until I turned 20 then I was ready to hit the bars with my friends and meet hopefully a more mature crowd, even if only just slightly. After I turned 21 you couldn’t catch me dead at a random house party.

You said your friends hype you up. Those are the only people that matter. Don’t feel like you have to go to house parties with them either. Go where you’re comfortable.

megiroma · 2020-07-23T05:00:18+00:00

Heya! I can relate to what you are saying because I’m 22. Don’t change the way you are! You’re just hanging around the wrong crowd but that’s not your fault. You wanna meet new people. Just know this: there are lots of guys that would appreciate the way you are. I met some guys that didn’t drink in college and just didn’t act they were interested in hook ups etc, and that is because they weren’t. They make you realize that there is nothing wrong with you. These women that hook up get treated like shit and ignored by guys afterward so please don’t give into that fantasy!! Guys (LVM) give their attention to girls they wouldn’t want you to be anything like.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-07-23T06:28:27+00:00

Don't bother thinking about these women. They don't have any self-respect. Nobody used to do this shit. I've never once been to a party where women got naked or danced on tables or danced for men. That's all new porno induced bullshit. In 10 years they will have to come to grips with all the times that they were raped and pressured because they rushed into things with men they barely knew. Just keep doing you.

dntbfllikeidid · 2020-07-23T03:37:17+00:00

Uh, how are they better than you by getting wasted and naked at parties and sleeping with a bunch of randos? Read this out loud to yourself to understand how silly that whole thing sounds! You are still attaching your self-worth to the attention scrotes give to the LV Stacies. Is that really in alignment with what you want for yourself and your life?

Alma00019 · 2020-07-23T12:47:18+00:00

You need to find social circles that are on your level.

These are not on your level. They are insecure and behave like gutter trash. Is that what you want? Of course gutter trash will celebrate its own debauchery and lowlife behavior. Would Kate Middleton hang out with these people? Would she feel inferior to them because she's not yanking off her clothes and screaming about drugs while having threesomes?? Of course not.

Find people on your level. These people and these environment bring NOTHING OF VALUE to your life. Absolutely nothing. Spending time at these parties is a net negative for you. Get some of your closest friends together and find some networking (outside of college) events to go to, art events, cultural events, whatever to meet other people.

CakeSprinklesUnicorn · 2020-07-24T05:46:37+00:00

“ These women often brag about doing drugs(including major ones like acid, cocaine, etc), all their hookups, threesomes, offering to strip during a drinking game, etc.”

The women you’re talking about aren’t really receiving genuine respect from the men. They’re getting this male attention because the men think they can use the women for an easy one-night stand and then ghost them after. Tbh, I really wouldn’t be surprised if these women develop serious mental issues in due time after they’ve been discarded.

Honestly, you have the right gut instincts about the situation. Don’t lower yourself to be a Pick-Me who’s going to be discarded like meaningless gutter trash.

Also, in all fairness, the women just seem like toxic, narcissistic, draining, highly insecure people.. I think you have the right intuition about staying away.

alichuchu · 2020-07-24T02:30:58+00:00

I promise you this is VERY common among women. I will tell you though, do not lower your standards. Would you REALLy want to be with a man that was ready to leave you for sex that easily? Is that the kind of attention you want? Men like that? Men’s attention is worth pure shit. You need to unpack why you feel like you need men’s attention to feel worthy.

Title	Insecure around certain women?
Author	dancinqqq
Upvotes	13
Comments	14
Date	July 23, 2020 3:03 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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