Looks Maxing

MerleErEnPerle · 2020-07-25T15:21:55+00:00

When I'm not in a relationship I don't need a man to compliment my looks.

When I'm in a relationship I feel like something's wrong if he doesn't compliment me.

I took it as a sign of weakness: I was just a craving girl. But then I realized how messed up it is that you have to come up with a strong case and a good argument every time you want to receive a compliment from someone that's supposed to be a positive factor in your life.

burpleseaurchin · 2020-07-25T16:39:08+00:00

It's been proven in studies that less attractive men are prone to using "negative" mate guarding tactics aka negging and trying to take down your self esteem. Attractive men are more likely to use positive tactics such as gift giving.

miwamus · 2020-07-25T15:48:38+00:00

I've found that attractive men are much more pleasant and are much more themselves. They feel like they are worthy of your looks.

Enjoy. :)

willowgrowingroots · 2020-07-25T18:56:48+00:00

I’m confused because I dated a NVM who did both.Many compliments about my looks followed by negging the next week, etc. I guess it was a technique to make me relay on his approval? 🤔

willowgrowingroots · 2020-07-25T16:07:03+00:00

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FluffandRainclouds · 2020-07-25T17:09:30+00:00

Can you tell me where to buy this apple pie fragrance? Haha

dalenoriah · 2020-07-27T01:41:01+00:00

A LVM doesn't want to draw attention to how attractive you are because maybe you'll realize how out-of-his-league you are and then he won't have access to you anymore. Even if you truly love him, he knows he doesn't deserve you and will do everything to keep your self-esteem low enough to stay with him.

An HVM is secure enough in himself to compliment you; he is confident enough to know you are a grown woman who has CHOSEN to be with him and honor your choice. He is a man that knows he wants a beautiful woman and also to be mature enough to recognize that building you up and validating you is not only how to keep you, but also just for your own benefit! He'll want to see the smile on your face and make you feel good for it's own sake.

Hi_Panda · 2020-07-25T15:26:26+00:00

women should be free to be attracted to anyone who they think is attractive but this post plus all the cringy incel terms sounds shallow imo as an attractive man does not always equal HVM. also, all you ever mentioned about your current boyfriend is that he compliments your appearance a lot and it's not really that impressive.

nutshit · 2020-07-25T21:46:43+00:00

Loved your post I’m happy for you ❤️ it makes me nervous when I see posts like this because for some strange reason, this sub doesn’t take well to looksmaxxing. There’s nothing wrong with upgrading your looks and expecting men you date to be on your level. Looks affect a lot of things in this world.

Title	Looks Maxing
Author	SpaceShipLady
Upvotes	65
Comments	21
Date	July 25, 2020 1:21 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/hxmmf9/looks_maxing/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/looks-maxing.717401 https://theredarchive.com/post/717401

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