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[–]FrequentPoetryPickmeisha™️154 points155 points156 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
to be honest I just feel grossed out by women who do everything for men and treat men like children. It makes me wanna shake their shoulders and say "stop it!". Like your partner isn't a child, stop treating him like one.
[–]lilithdianaraFDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
^ exactly sis! It’s honestly revolting. Some women just... are so far gone as pickmes.
[–]ms_monquisFDS Disciple0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
A lot of people confuse martyrdom for heroism.
[–]19Bubbles98FDS Newbie94 points95 points96 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Whenever someone says A man will change for the right woman my eye twitches a lil. Because no, he won't. If a man is almost 30 and he is still playing his dirty little games then leave him and don't think he will change if you do because he will be the same old joe 10 years in the future.
[–]kortiz46FDS Newbie50 points51 points52 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Age means nothing, I just was reading a dumb AITA post about a woman who had to kick her 39 year old boyfriend out for being a video game playing bum and his mother literally had to come pick him up
[–]BabaAuRhumOhlalaFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’ve had a friend who complained that after 5 years, he’s getting rejected for the same reasons like before. He complained that he thought he did some work but it’s still the same.
[–]Karolin99_GerAt-Risk Pick Me Youth31 points32 points33 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is so True! Never entertain lvm like that!! Not with any part of your life
[–]Mysterious_Midnight7FDS Apprentice48 points49 points50 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Me, me, me, me, me. I'd make a succulent dinner along with a special dessert, only for him to wake up in a bad mood for no reason and talk to me like shit. And then in a week or two, I'd do it again! *insert clown honks*
[–]thinksimasparetireFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I felt this. Once bc I felt like we weren’t seeing each other enough, I made a dinner for my ex. Then he said he was not gonna come. I cried bc I put a lot of time into it and then found out it was “just a joke” and I should stop crying bc he forgot to grab something I asked him to bring and went back.
[–]livefree6217 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So true. But I don’t even believe in “treating them how they treat you” either. If it’s not mutual kindness and respect, I don’t want it.
[–]jchvrxo_FDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I used to give unconditional love to the ex who cheated on me probably more than I knew, started cooking for him, go to his house more just because it was “more convenient” for him (we lived 10 mins btw), I got close to his mother and sister (they loveeeed me), sex probably 4-5x a day, I used to buy him clothes too, because silly little me believed that the more I could love him the more he would realize my worth and guess what he told me when I asked him why can’t all of this be reciprocated back? “All of this doesn’t matter” “the bad outweighs the good” “if you weren’t so jealous, I would do xyz” this boy disrespected me, belittled me, manipulated the hell out of me and gaslighted me til I no longer couldn’t put up with it anymore. Now the love I gave him, I’m giving it to myself 100x harder then I ever will to anyone ever again.
[–]DaisyDooDropsFDS Newbie47 points48 points49 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I like the sentiment, but there’s no guarantee that a man will “change” if the woman suddenly stops doing all that for him. Many times, women WILL stop and then get abused into doing those things again. If a man treats a woman like shit after she bends over backwards to please him, that’s a problem with the man. The answer here is ALWAYS to leave and block as soon as you can when people don’t appreciate you or see your worth.
[–]llii--FDS Newbie[S] 44 points45 points46 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
But that’s the point though. The “why would he change?” question is rhetorical - because in all honesty, he won’t change, so the woman should leave if her efforts aren’t being appreciated. I don’t see how the woman is being blamed for anything, this post is just tough love for women to wake up and leave their shitty relationships. I posted this on this sub because I wish I’d seen this earlier, back in my pickmeisha days from cooking, cleaning, just overall loving a man that didn’t deserve any of it.
[–]DaisyDooDropsFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ah, I think I misunderstood then. I just got the impression that the post was implying the man would change if the woman stopped doing all that stuff for him rather than just leaving. I guess it’s just a matter of interpretation because no outcome is actually stated on the post. I guess we’re on the same page then! Lol
[–]Throwitaway_72946FDS Newbie10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I love this woman, I follow her insta too. She calls men out for their BS, she bursts the bubble for ladies trying their mental gymnastics, she doesn't sugar coat because honestly, the message gets lost in translation when you sugar coat.
[–]RavenKlaw16FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Unfortunately, the reality is that he won’t change if he needs to be rewarded for being a decent human being.
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[–]Karolin99_GerAt-Risk Pick Me Youth31 points32 points33 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Mysterious_Midnight7FDS Apprentice48 points49 points50 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]thinksimasparetireFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]livefree6217 points18 points19 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]jchvrxo_FDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]DaisyDooDropsFDS Newbie47 points48 points49 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]llii--FDS Newbie[S] 44 points45 points46 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]DaisyDooDropsFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Throwitaway_72946FDS Newbie10 points11 points12 points (0 children) | Copy Link
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