I’ve known him since we were 12. Dated on and off for over 10 years. He cheated on me when we were both 23 in a LDR and he was abroad working (less than 6 months into being abroad). Then got into a year+ long relationship with her (she was into open relationships...? It didn’t work out.).

Now he wants to re-kindle a relationship. He’s been wavering on paying for counseling, and I’ve been calling him on all of his bullshit.

We got into a fight tonight because he belittled an accomplishment of mine in front of my friends (he’s not friends with them). He knew exactly what he was doing. I tried to get him to acknowledge it was an ego thing. He wouldn’t.

He then asked if my self esteem was “really that low?” And said “I’m sorry you’re so broken.” I calmly told him to GTFO. Gotta love being smothered by those red flags.