29 f He's 27 m

I am extremely proud of myself today.

I have been a people-pleaser for most of my life. It is only in the past couple of years that I have been working on intentionally changing this in different areas of my life.

I recently started seeing a guy who ticked a lot of my basic boxes - kind, caring, compassionate, funny, relatable.. a big change from the fuck boys I've been used to going out with and chasing for so many years. I wanted to give a nice guy a chance.

I went to visit him this past weekend and got to see how HE lives and it was just a huge eye opener for me.

He's basically a man child. Smokes too much weed, he's obsessed with video games, his room is like a 19 year old's bedroom..

He drank 3% milk out of the carton with his breakfast... 💀

That's when I knew this was not gonna work out 🤣

The old people-pleasing me would've probably stuck it out for longer...

But what I did instead is put myself first. Intentionally.

I have never been the one to end a situationship first.

I mustered up the courage and told him in the kindest way possible that this is just not gonna work for me.

I was SO scared to do it but I truly feel empowered.

Just because he's the first guy who's actually been nice to me and wanted to be with me doesn't mean I should settle! I will not settle! I know what I want.

I hope other ladies who struggle with doing so on here practice putting themselves first more and more everyday 💜