respect ends = relationship ends. If they know they're hurting you and it's not bothering them, then what are you even doing in that relationship? Move on to better.

sunset_sunshine30 · 2020-06-12T09:51:16+00:00

This was my ex. He told me he loved me, wanted to marry me etc. Still didn't stop him from taking days to message me back, reneging on his promises and not following through on a damn thing he said he would do. It's amazing how much we put up with from these worthless men because they are objectively successful/handsome or charming.

gcthlp · 2020-06-12T09:28:50+00:00

We were on the bus the first day of our holiday in the middle of a traffic jam in manila. He was texting this barely legal chick that was annoying me because he told me how much she's hitting on him but it's just friendly for him. He showed me the texts, he wanted to look transparent. I told him it's hurtful. He asked back this is hurtful to you? And I said yes. He turned around and continued texting. I should've known then and there.

rainbowsprinkles111 · 2020-06-12T11:14:03+00:00

I was constantly under pressure to have sex with my ex, i deal with chronic pain everyday. Sex was painful, but still required... I hope now being single I can heal and in the future have a partner who respects my physical body.

PicklesNBacon · 2020-06-12T11:44:42+00:00

I see “I’ve asked him to stop” or “he said he would change but didnt” soooo many times. It should be one and done

redpeithos · 2020-06-12T12:38:43+00:00

I am a German woman, and when talking about Germany, I sometimes have to tell non-Germans with stereotypes that Bavaria is completely different to the rest of the country. This one guy I dated clearly decided not listen to me, and continued to behave as though Bavaria represents the whole of Germany.

I am not Bavarian, and my identity is very important to me. If he was not going to respect me the first time round, why should I have given him another chance? Tch.

2020-06-12T18:28:52+00:00

Yup. I don't believe in the benefit of the doubt anymore, and I affirm that I'm a communicative, clear cut person and I am not confusing or hard to understand. I'm not asking for too much, I'm asking for what I need. Thereby, I explain it once. I explain my expectations once. You have that single opportunity to change. If you don't, I'm gone.

munissa · 2020-06-12T13:23:48+00:00

Truth. I wish I understood this in my last relationship.

seraphinelysion · 2020-06-12T14:36:00+00:00

Took me way too long to understand this.

cassiecanex · 2020-06-12T12:12:12+00:00

I asked him for the simplest thing. A clean apartment when I came over, because my place was always clean when he was over. I also told him he had to clean up after himself and do simple things like put shoes next to other shoes and his clothes in the drawer I designated for him, when he was at my place. I hated messy spaces, he knew this. How anyone could live the way he does I fail to understand.

He cleaned his apartment that one time after I said it. And after that he always just made up excuses and it was never tidy when I was at his place. Who wants to sleep on a bed filled with dirt y socks, crumbs and books?And walk floor littered with old bags of chips and dirty clothes? I had to threaten never to come over for him to even clean that one time that he did. He then tried to make it look like I had OCD and it was unhealthy for me to always expect places to be clean.

This was just the tip of the iceberg. But it was the one fight we kept coming back to until we broke up.

Title	respect ends = relationship ends. If they know they're hurting you and it's not bothering them, then what are you even doing in that relationship? Move on to better.
Author	Myplummms
Upvotes	1858
Comments	29
Date	June 12, 2020 5:44 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/h7eyno/respect_ends_relationship_ends_if_they_know/
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