Sex

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-07-18T16:50:56+00:00

Dumping him is going to be hard no matter what you do. You just have to rip off that Band-Aid. Think of it this way, the sooner you lose him the sooner you can find someone else who is 100 times better.

Sage_Planter · 2020-07-18T17:01:15+00:00

You don't deserve that sort of crap. No one does. If you want to lose weight for yourself, I am all about that. However, this loser is going to always want more, more, more from you. It's going to get worse.

Please lose the real weight you need to: him.

elementalvirago · 2020-07-18T20:06:25+00:00

Bullshit. Men would literally fuck a tree stump if they thought it would get them off. He's trying to control you.

manisfestationqueen · 2020-07-18T17:12:27+00:00

Get some sex toys. It's 100% better than putting up with men and their issues. Also you will get off every time and they don't make you feel bad about yourself. If you want to lose the weight, it will only happen if you do it for yourself and no one else!!!

passionatevirtuoso · 2020-07-18T21:44:06+00:00

Girl, for a guy like this, you will never be enough because it's not you. It's him.

My ex said I should get a Brazilian wax, a pedicure, and have makeup on. Always have shaved legs. Always have done up hair.

I did those things consistently and it didn't make a difference. For THREE months, even while travelling full time... And he barely touched me.

When I pointed this out to him,he said I lied. That I didn't do any of those things.

I laughed in his face and listed off dates, times and specifics. This stuff took time, money and PAIN.

He had that deer caught in the headlights look... He had not even noticed. Then he found something else to criticize me on.

That's when I knew there was no point (it took me wayyyy too long, girl, don't do what I did.)

Understand that if your weight was really the true issue, he would have approached it VERY very gently, kindly and softly. He did not. So it is clear it is just a scapegoating/distraction tactic.

(My ex had a ton of issues. Besides being abusive, he was very porn addicted and was phobic about losing his erection, like for even a second, to the point that grabbing a towel or turning off a light would spell the end of sex because the action was interrupted. Honestly, I don't think he is that attracted to female genitalia...)

throwawayitst · 2020-07-18T18:49:05+00:00

Read the power of pussy- the right guy is supposed to find you hot sexy at any size- you’ll undoubtedly gain weight as a women (during pregnancy) - if they are pulling this shit now they are human SCUM

How rude- i bet hes a porn addict- not wanting sex is the least masculine a man can be a in a relationship

sweetpotatocupcake · 2020-07-18T20:32:13+00:00

Leave him.

Torir21065 · 2020-07-18T19:21:27+00:00

You can tell him there arw other options if he no longer finds you attractive. Men will have sex with anything that has a vagina. No offense to the super morbidly obese ladies on my 600 pound story but many of them do not look the best yet have kids. He is trying to get more control over you by making you feel shitty about yourself so you are more submissive. The sooner you dump him the better. You will be hurting for a while but you don't need such a toxicity in your life. Stay strong 💪

SpecialofSpecials · 2020-07-18T20:11:10+00:00

he's probably cheating (emotional or physical)

ModernDayOracle · 2020-07-19T04:56:08+00:00

If you dump him you'll lose at least 70kg instantly...

Seriously girl, this man is awful. Have some self respect.

2020-07-18T23:43:10+00:00

I suspect he's pornsick. Personally I would leave him, he's a shallow abusive prick. This is either an excuse because he is choosing porn over sex or he is deliberately doing and saying these things to tear down your self esteem and have control over you and power in the relationship. You don't deserve to put up with his crap.

ChristianGirl93 · 2020-07-19T02:44:18+00:00

Handbook

Wkndwhorechata · 2020-07-19T03:17:46+00:00

GET OUT OF THERE. How are you feeling about yourself? Demoralized, for sure.

You invited this person to help you in life, no? To support and lift you up (geeze, fuck hyping that's long gone)? He's not pulling his weight. How is he thanking you, complimenting you, appreciating you!?

gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-07-19T22:42:20+00:00

Leave. That's 165+ lbs gone in an instant.

vereelimee · 2020-07-24T19:37:33+00:00

Definitely it's not you. I have never been considered thin or fit by normal standards. My recommendation make an OLD profile not to date but so you realize how many options you have. Granted I didn't believe it right away until I went on some dates. Really it is up to you what to do. However, I guarantee you are not limited at all. If you really wanted sex, then you could easily find it with an attractive fit man within a week. I'm not suggesting that at all but it's certainly possible.

Things I don't do: I don't wear makeup except skincare and sunscreen. I don't shave my legs or body hair. I don't tan because I am pale and literally can't tan. All things I've been told that I should do to attract a man.

I have had many options and not settled on a relationship. It's not your body that is broken. The whole man is broken.

I am working on myself for myself though. It's certainly hard to change your habits. I am working towards losing 50lbs. It's not been easy but I know that I can do it.

Title	Sex
Author	Odd-Cut-9706
Upvotes	8
Comments	15
Date	July 18, 2020 5:44 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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