Should we delete Instagram?

an0nny · 2020-01-07T18:32:24+00:00

That app is garbage anyway. Men love it -- free porn for them of "real girls". 🙄 Men on IG are LVM anyway.

AyemHerself · 2020-01-07T18:27:01+00:00

If it's hurting you, follow other people or delete the app. There's no shame in realizing something isn't helping you right now. If you change your mind later, IG will take you back.

reijn · 2020-01-07T18:59:01+00:00

I left all social media and I have never felt better. I did have to reactivate Facebook just for stupid social appearances or events but I no longer use it. And seriously fuck Instagram. I started out using it for lifting and fitness and like 99% of that world is soft core porn and posing fake models and eating disorders and bullshit.

I also side eye any males who use insta for reasons that need not be explained.

Cemilyplayyy · 2020-01-07T18:35:14+00:00

Absolutely delete it. My mental health has improved vastly since deleting. You will always feel like you are competing with fake ass local girls or """models""" while dating and it's not healthy.

Chip_Man5674 · 2020-01-07T18:33:08+00:00

You said it yourself, Instagram makes you depressed. Delete it. No balls.

134340-92494 · 2020-01-07T18:31:47+00:00

I wish I could give you a hug. This is totally something I’ve dealt with and it’s absolutely fine if you decide to remove yourself from that situation and delete instagram for a while. But you also have to address that pain somehow, because unfortunately, you can’t stop yourself from seeing couples forever. It took a long time for me to let go of the misplaced bitterness I was feeling toward couples, LV and HV alike, and I hope you can find a way to do the same.

kayterrell · 2020-01-07T19:46:55+00:00

Let's start here: STOP COMPARING YOURSELF! Yes, I know more than anyone that it's hard But for your sanity, you have to stop. For years we build this competition between women and for what? To see who dies with the most toys? Pass.

Be happy for your friends. You wouldn't NOT go to a wedding because you've never been married, right? I

It is okay to want a someone, but alone doesn't have to mean lonely. What other goals do you have? School? Promotion? Traveling?

Story time: I went back to school at 24 and swore off being married. Like, ever. In my math class, the teacher asked for someone to take notes for someone who was dyslexic and it would count as community service. I volunteered. (I mean, I was already taking notes anyways, what's 2 extra minutes of waiting for the professor to make copies?) The boy I took notes for stopped me after class to say thank you. I wasn't looking for "him". At the same time, my best friend was getting married. I was stoked to be maid of honor, and had a blast doing wedding stuff with her. 3 years later, I married the boy from my math class. Here we are, 5 years later and when I look back on my single life, I feel like I wasted time trying so hard to not be alone, when I really should of just been having fun.

I'm sorry your IG is a reminder that you have no one, but please keep in mind social media is literally a "build your own character" platform. These couples show you what they want you to see. (If we're being really honest, I use mine mostly for memes) Your day will come, until then, just live it up.

2020-01-07T19:15:51+00:00

I’ve found that deleting it, even just for a while, helps. I deleted the app off my phone for a month and it did wonders for my mental health. I redownloaded it a month later as I use it to keep in touch with long-distance friends, but I unfollowed a bunch of accounts that I found lowered my self-worth or triggered feelings of insecurity when I looked through them. I suggest cleaning up your list of who you follow and not even hesitating to unfollow as soon as you see a post that triggers you, even if it’s a friend. Take care of yourself first and foremost.

teeteereads · 2020-01-07T18:49:46+00:00

Definitely disconnect if you feel the stress coming on. SM IS sure to craft thoughts that you should compare yourself to these people or friends, but really “why did they post this?” is a question we don’t unpack enough. I understand certain milestones or running a brand/business but a lot of the time people will just stunt online so they feel better about the life they don’t actually want us to see. You’re young and social media is social capital for most people nowadays. If you want to feel valuable beyond these mediums, you have to find yourself away from what is causing forms of harm to you.

Also, if you need to clean your feed, by all means do that too. It’s your space to curate however you want.

Ms_Tilly · 2020-01-07T20:07:54+00:00

I don't have IG, SC, or Twitter and don't feel like I'm missing anything. I enjoy facebook, but I only follow a handful of people and they are all people I personally know. I've moved around a ton since my teens, so fb lets me keep up with family and friends' lives.

Parking-Act · 2020-01-07T20:27:36+00:00

I realized a while ago that giving people free access or a sneak peak or inside look at my life, accomplishments or thoughts is not beneficial for me at all.

Yoy dont know whose looking or what these followers energies are. I just dont do it anymore.

tramadololol · 2020-01-08T07:54:02+00:00

This is why I don’t scroll my human instagram. I only browse my dog’s, which only follows animal accounts.

Orange_Paisley · 2020-01-07T20:06:59+00:00

Mine is almost entirely photos of my dog.

Asbelowsoaboveme · 2020-01-08T17:04:49+00:00

I only use Facebook and I refuse to date any man who uses Instagram or Snapchat or any of those immature social media apps featuring soft core porn of “attainable” “girl next door” models. Those apps exist to keep your man pornsick and thinking about other hotter photoshopped plastic girls, even possibly spending his emotional and financial resources on them. Eff that.

My boyfriend doesn’t have any social media, he has an actual life and friends and I’m all the porn he needs :)

I say delete that shit, sis

Title	Should we delete Instagram?
Author	Woahlunameditation
Upvotes	24
Comments	16
Date	January 7, 2020 6:25 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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