Stop making excuses for abusers

💡Being abused does NOT give you the excuse to be abusive to others.💡

It is “faux feminism” that we need to give support and solidarity to rabid pickme women.

Dani Leigh abused darker skinned Black women when she went out of her way to make a song disparaging them. Notice that she did this to the least protected group of women in 🇺🇸 . It is important that we name and call out behavior accurately. I do not use the word abusive lightly but the abuse of Black women is so normalized that people find 1,001 ways to call it by any other name.

Black women were even kind enough to warn her that she was playing with 🗑 and she turned around and called them jealous.🤦🏽‍♀️

Realize that part of your impetus for defending her is because we all grow up within white supremacy where the person with most proximity to whiteness always gets more empathy, compassion and forgiveness than the darker person. Many of you would not be defending her if her song had been abusive towards dogs but you think it’s okay what she did to Black women.🧐

I’m light skinned and I’ve been able to see through this colorist bullshit since I was like 7 so stop making excuses for women that oppress you and/or harm other women. Also, I mentioned that I’m light skinned because some of you are only willing to listen to people who are closer to whiteness. (Again, do you see how that is white supremacy at work? Many Black woman will say the same thing I’m saying and will be called jealous but when I say it 🤯…)

💡Shame has a time and a place. When you don’t know any better or it is beyond your control, then no reason to feel shame. Do NOT feel ashamed that you were abused or grew up in poverty.

But when you do know better and choose to willingly hurt people, shame on you. When you perpetuate racism, colorism, exploitation, shame on you.

Understand that as humans, our ancestors would exile a person or send them away > the death penalty. If you cannot behave as a decent person than sometimes you need to learn by feeling a dose of the cruelty you have inflicted onto others.

I’ve witnessed firsthand that most people do not change from endless compassion. They change when they are held accountable and there are consequences for their behavior.