Therapy

Spice_Cat_Puccino · 2020-03-15T14:44:05+00:00

Had depression since I was 16 years old, and I think I can officially say I ended my depression at age 22-23. (I'm 24 now.)

I did therapy with supervised psy student at my university. It was cheaper but it was still very good!

It did help a lot, but I wasn't prepared for the homework to do. 50% of therapy's success is doing your work (opening up, analysis, doing the self-reflection, the homework).

Therapy shouldn't be the sole tool in battling depression (else it would be useless. Did that mistake...).: there's personal health, there's financial health to take care of, etc.

I don't want to discourage you from going to therapy, honestly that's good! If all this feels overwelming, do one thing at a time.

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ames0630 · 2020-03-15T15:55:00+00:00

I've done dialectical behavior therapy and cognitive behavior therapy and both were great, but I think CBT is a bit more my speed.

Have you found a therapist yet? (Actually harder to do than picking the type.) If not, I'd check out betterhelp.com. The system makes it super easy to work with different professionals until you find one to really connect with.

Great decision and good luck!

ghygdryhchmmmmjj · 2020-03-16T03:38:12+00:00

Trauma therapy specifically to target a traumatic relationship that had happened. I'm not a person who is comfortable with therapy at all, but made myself go. I'm really glad I did. I felt selfish going, or like I was being overly dramatic. Even though I was mildly suicidal, something I had never been in my life and is extremelyout of characterfor me. I couldn't accept the fact that I wasnt ok. I'm always ok, I always self sooth. Looking back I see it as one if the wisest most proactive things I've ever done. I did 5 sessions and then wanted to do some more healing on my own. I'm sure I should have done more, but I got so much out of it. Trauma therapy is very targeted. It was like some one reached in and resent some things in my brain that needed to be reset. For trauma therapy you need a specific healing goal, or event you want to work through in order for it to be effective. Good for you that you are looking! Something I noticed when I was looking for trauma therapy was that not all therapists specialize in everything. Make sure you find a therapist that specializes in therapy for helping with depression. You can often have an initial session where you can discuss goals, they tell you how they want to approach your treatment and you get to decide if it sounds good to you.

level_up_always · 2020-03-15T23:40:36+00:00

yes. i've done lots of different types of therapy - emdr, cbt/dbt, family systems therapy etc. they all taught me something different. some say cbt is the most effective for depression and in a way it is but sometimes you need to get more to the root of things and that's where having a trauma informed therapist is key. i was also part of a few support groups that i won't post publicly for privacy but if interested lmk and i can send you a message (i think? because i turned messages off i can still msg others)

cirrus_cloud · 2020-03-17T05:25:06+00:00

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has CHANGED MY LIFE!!

It seriously gives you the tools you need to overcome all the negative thinking in your head.

Do a search on Zoc Doc for CBT’s that are in network for you! My sessions were $50

pinkmacaroons · 2020-03-15T16:42:53+00:00

DBT & CBT

radical__daphne · 2020-03-15T16:49:15+00:00

If you are going to go the medicine route I would consider trying St. John's Wort before you go to antidepressants. I had PTSD from rape and I took antidepressants and it completely destroyed my stomach. I've been off them for three years and still have problems. It got so bad I had to titrate off the meds too quickly and my depression and PTSD came back with a vengeance. I ended up taking St. John's Wort in desperation. to my surprise 900 milligrams of saint John's wort worked the better than the antidepressant I was on and it doesn't cause any stomach problems or impair your sexual function. It does give me nosebleeds though. I think that's a pretty good trade-off. You just titrate onto it and titrate off of it slowly. That means you start out with 300 milligrams for a couple of weeks/one month then 600. If that's not enough go to nine hundred.

When I was younger I also dealt with depression. Turned out I just needed to get out and be social more, three times a week.

And I know everyone says this but exercise really does make you feel so much better. Even if you just go to a yoga class or take a walk.

Putting these things together with therapy is a good place to start. I think typically CBT would be what you want to start with? Also depends on who you mesh with and what your insurance covers. Absolutely be prepared to move through multiple therapists before you find one that you like. You wouldn't believe some of these so-called therapists the things they said to a rape victim (me).

ChocoBananza · 2020-03-15T15:59:21+00:00

If you have textbook depression, find a psychiatrists. He/she will give you a proper therapy.

Now, I’m talking from my personal experience. I’ve seen multiple psychotherapists in the past decade, and most of them has seen me as a cash cow. They all have known that I was suffering from depression (and if they didn’t, wtf kind of experts are they?), but never gave me medication, because that would mean I won’t be back.

I am aware that certain types (levels? I’m not sure can it be measured) of depression can be fixed with sheer power of will and positive environment, but I didn’t have that kind of privilege. I’m still bitter that I’ve spent so much time, money, and potential years of happiness just because someone wanted an extra fistful of dollars.

Anyhow, I started medication (low dose Seroxat) last October, and I felt change immediately. Like, day 2 of therapy I could finally sleep more than 2 hours. My anger was managed. I was genuinely felling, well, feelings. I dumped my LVM after 10 years of misery! After 3 mere months of taking medications, something happened. I kinda ‘felt’ that my brain has rewired, and I didn’t need the pills anymore. I’m off the pills since end of Jan, and I never felt better. The positive effects from the therapy are still there. Maybe I just needed a little push. On the other hand, I have no idea if this will last forever, but to be honest, I would be very much ok with being medicated for the rest of my life, if that would mean that the quality of it would improve.

Please let me know here or through dms if you have more questions/need more info.

Title	Therapy
Author	quimicababes
Upvotes	17
Comments	17
Date	March 15, 2020 12:12 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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