What are your thoughts about this?

Vmchik · 2022-01-21T21:26:07+00:00

I’m so sorry but them saying women are dating up on apps is absolutely false. Any sane woman that has swiped on the apps for more than 5 minutes can see the abysmal state of straight men. They look like gremlins and it takes 100 swipes just to stumble upon a relatively attractive guy. I saw maybe a handful of “chad” worthy profiles when I was still online dating. If anything, online dating makes women settle wayyy more than men want to believe. Having to swipe through the ugliest profiles you’ve ever seen will do that. Eventually you’ll start swiping right on men because they don’t look like serial killers. Also every girl I knew that met their bf on tinder or whatever site was way out of their SOs league. Women rarely, rarely, date up in any category with straight men.

whiskey_and_oreos · 2022-01-21T18:34:24+00:00

I get where she's coming from but it's just a way to rationalize women's OLD experiences when really it's just that men are overwhelmingly N/LV and many women have given up on OLD in favor of doing literally anything else productive or fulfilling.

purasangria · 2022-01-21T20:06:35+00:00

Might be true, but also, rarely are men on OLD apps looking for anything but sex, so... None of them are staying matched with anyone.

Women should avoid the trash men on OLD.

idiosyncraticg1 · 2022-01-22T02:53:00+00:00

Your life will become so much easier when you realize that ugly guys will treat you just as bad as attractive guys. If you’re a “Heather” and you match with an “Ian”, you’re not going to get married. It’s extremely flawed to think that only attractive people want sex while uggos want marriage. This leads to women dating down and settling and still getting ghosted or broken up with.

Efflights6 · 2022-01-21T23:14:23+00:00

Pick me shit.

Jandi18 · 2022-01-22T04:39:29+00:00

So moral of the story women should settle for Ian’s because they could be decent guys? Because he will be excited and marry her? 😂😂😂

Nah sis! Ian will start feeling he can also do better if he could get a girl like Heather. So Ian will start fishing for more Heathers and start neglecting his relationship. Don’t settle for who you aren’t attracted because you think they will stay. They will more likely still treat you like shit.

Platipus6 · 2022-01-21T21:39:06+00:00

Ians are not nice, not undercover cute, and not excited to go on a date 😂

They'd been shooting out of their league and matching (unattractive) women they believe they 'didn't deserve', and catfish/scammers/bots for so long they were angry and bitter.

I've been accused of being a bot, asked repeatedly where I lived like they were trying to break my algorithm, asked where I was born for a green-card-digger check, had pics immediately demanded to prove I'm not a bot, and just bubbling hostility and passive aggressive bullshit that turns me all the way off and makes me regret matching down. "Why are you matching with someone like me? Why is someone like you on this app? What's the catch, (loser)? Are you there? Bet you're busy chatting with other guys huh. Do I have to take you on a fancy date to get your attention? Hey nevermind I got called in to work.."

And then they start the cycle over again. Matching with bots, getting angry that it was another bot, matching with unattractive women and being mad about it, and matching with women looking for one person who isn't an asshole, and then being an asshole to her.

CountingDownTheDays5 · 2022-01-21T18:24:50+00:00

Dating apps are simply products of the people on them. Dating apps are bad because most of the people are them are bad. And her idea does not work because regardless if a black woman is Stephanie she will still get less likes because she is black. Truth be told dating apps are wrapped up in racism, classism, sexism, and confused people. And this is coming from someone who met her boyfriend from an app and he is a "chad".

Astral_weaver · 2022-01-22T06:54:13+00:00

The "rating" system is something created by men, is utterly dehumanizing and no decent person should be using it.

Also why the "Chad" is at the top of the pyramid and "Becca" at the bottom? If this is not the semantics of a misogynistic scheme then I don't know what it is.

As another commenter said,this video is pickme bullshit. Men on dating apps are not there to "date" most of times, they are there for the sex. We had a conversation with my therapist about OLD the other day and she was like "Most men who use them probably don't have the best interest of women in mind." They can fake so many things while on an app and even in person you most probably don't have a context of reference for them, thing that you would have if you met through a same activity for example. Mind you, my therapist is a married woman in her 50's, and yet it is a no brainer for her that OLD is a scum.

Hostileovaries · 2022-01-22T07:40:40+00:00

This is just red pill theory re-branded

DivineGoddess1111111 · 2022-01-22T00:27:51+00:00

This is what I hate about the apps. All these different levels to describe how good someone looks in a photo. Like we are all livestock being graded about how pure-bred we are.

It's all bullshit. Some people aren't photogenic. I matched with an slightly above average guy. When I met him for a date, he was the best looking guy I had seen in my whole life, movie star looks.

It's all so demeaning and dehumanising. When I was last on OLD I saw very few Chad's. I saw many scruffy neckbeard bloated misogynists though. I'm trying to think of a name for them that's bottom tier 🤔

_RustInPiece_ · 2022-01-22T02:57:44+00:00

Sounds like red pill theory for women

bleda_princezna · 2022-01-22T08:28:18+00:00

Women on OLD dating a category up? 🤣🤣🤣 I haven't met anyone online who I would consider category up, lol. Must have been doing something wrong.

spicyspa · 2022-01-22T00:52:59+00:00

Becca's only a 4-5. I'm definitely a -10.

Title	What are your thoughts about this?
Author	SpecificPatience8
Upvotes	39
Comments	23
Date	January 21, 2022 6:15 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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