I'm actually not sure! I'm a strong introvert; I'm always happy with my own company. I need time alone every single day, and hours of it. Whereas some people would be super happy to be back out with people after a day or two alone, I'm like, nope, I'll take another day. And I've already been married twice, for 25 years, now widowed 5 years. I haven't tried to date, just busy living my life, getting used to early retirement, moving, and until his death in August, for the past year and a half, helping my older sister take care of our now-late dad (who lived to 91).

Any man who wanted to be with me would have to realize, he's not competing with any other man. He's competing with my love of silence, solitude, and love of my own space, my home. What actually would he offer that would make me want to include him in my life? I read an article on Medium once that said not only would someone need to fit into my life, but he'd also have to expand it. I love that thought. He would have to bring his own talents, accomplishments, insights, conversation skill, people skills, hobbies, interests. He'd also have to love his alone time, and obviously not be needy, clingy, lonely, or an extreme extrovert.

I'm curious what qualities you most look for in a man, way more than the bare minimum. Let's make it a list: 5-10 qualities a man has to have, over and above is generally a good person, showers, has his own career, isn't a mooch/hobosexual, isn't a jerk, isn't a user, honestly likes women, etc. What makes a man worthy?