I've mentioned here before that I chat, and have chatted for years. Much like OLD, it's no place to find a man, and I'm glad not to be looking. I'm there to chat, pass time, have fun. I keep chat in the background while I play games online and read. (I also don't go on webcam, either.)

Those who really, REALLY want to be married, those who want to hook up, those who want to hit it and quit it: quite a few of those are in chat. Very few are like me, just there to pass time. Fortunately a few are, and they get it. We chat, pass time, then move on.

Today, a guy I've known casually for several years contacted me yet again. He asked if I wanted to meet up, and I said sure, if you travel to my state, and if you give me a good reason to meet, plus we obviously meet up in public. Cue silence.

Use this as a vetting strategy. Any man who values your safety and you as a person won't ever just go silent at all. Just like with texting, it takes a few seconds at most to craft a reply, even for the slowest typers. That silence means he has no good intentions toward you, and very possibly evil intentions. I also let him know by saying "travel to my state" that I won't chase him, or spend money to see him. He'd have to pursue me, and spend his own money to come see me.

I'm interested to hear about other scrotes that FDS queens have vetted. How did you know it was safe or not to meet? What are the tells? Story time!