Why men don't delete your contact after a few dates? Even when you told them you're not longer interested in seeing them again ?

Goddess422 · 2020-03-08T18:06:51+00:00

Probably to pretend they've got a list of conquests.

SmirfySurf · 2020-03-08T18:09:27+00:00

So they can try to hit you up 5 years later when they get bored of their new girlfriend 😒

blackopium777 · 2020-03-08T18:53:32+00:00

I've had males brag about having many female contacts quiet often. Some would literally scroll through their contact list in front of you, just to show off, how many female names they have saved in their phones ("Ah, let me send that meme to you..gotta search for your contact first"). Always a huge red flag actually and also EXTREMELY pathetic. Boy, we know that you're not that wanted by women, stop trying to impress anyone.

Bovvsette · 2020-03-08T18:12:09+00:00

Maybe it's an ego boost to have as many women contacts as he can. Perhaps they don't see it as a door being closed and just you playing hard to get, expecting that you will get lonely enough one day to change your mind and lower your standards into being their booty call. Who knows. Either way doesn't seem respectful of your boundaries or it's just them being plain lazy. That's why we block them and never look back.

naamshiko · 2020-03-08T18:56:05+00:00

Because their narcissistic asses can't take no for an answer and they're planning to hit you with a text a few months or even years later when they eventually run out of options. As if time was gonna make you forget that they have the charisma of a chewing-gum.

2020-03-08T22:33:59+00:00

Possibility for future sex opportunities. I'm serious, I used to be so Bamboozled why guys who treated me like shit or weren't that interested kept fucking texting me or following up. Guys who did not even seem very engaged on our dates still wanted to keep seeing me. it's literally sex. It took me until 24 years fucking old until I realized that guys stay in your orbit literally and figuratively for the possibility of sex at some point in the future even if it's 1% possible in his mind. I told the guy he wasn't my type but I offered him friendship and he was so offended and said no I know my worth I don't want to talk to you anymore.

I was confused because he said that another woman rejected him and offered friendship and now they are fast friends! What changed? because the other woman rejected him for being married. And his eyes, he still has a chance at sex. Me telling him he wasn't my type physically was too much for him- he knew he couldn't EVER get sex.

I cannot believe it took me so long to realize this and how much I used to cry over guys who were literally just wanting to have sex with me. It was so "confusing".They are time-wasters. I really recommend you listen to the audio book "not your mother's rules" by Ellen Fein.

Also, I know some women like to just delete guys. you need to be blocking them. I even got a brand new phone number to erase all the people I ever blocked between ages 18 and 24. Block block block so you don't even see it! Some women act like oh no I'm not bothered it's amusing for me.... and then they make posts like this where they clearly are giving it mental energy. He doesn't give a fuk about you he just wants to have sex with you possibly. I know that's really hard to hear but it will really clear a lot of things up for you

SpookySparkle7 · 2020-03-09T02:13:22+00:00

You go into their CRM and they follow up with their warm leads from time to time instead of having to cold call on Tinder.

This makes things easier because they know:

You're looking to date
You've already agreed to go out with them once
They've already built some familiarity

I'm a real estate agent and I do this with my buyer/seller leads only with real estate 😂

cannedboelyn · 2020-03-08T20:05:49+00:00

It’s because they actually weren’t looking for a relationship, just to hook up. They probably said they were looking for a relationship though. Perhaps their methods made them get laid easy and since it didn’t work on you it hurt their ego.

Just a theory.

criticalnotcompliant · 2020-03-08T20:13:54+00:00

They do it so they can ask you for a shag later. I've started blocking before deleting now because a few guys messaged me on a semi-regular basis asking to hook up. One even found my IG after I blocked him (I now use pseudonyms for all my social media accounts. Would recommend). They don't have to be incels to be creeps.

TempDetect · 2020-03-08T20:36:53+00:00

Because they don't care about your desires or boundaries.

Davina33 · 2020-03-09T08:37:48+00:00

I've noticed this as well. I didn't keep any of their numbers. Once our relationship was over, I would delete everything of theirs. Seems the only way is to block. I discovered my ex was texting both of his ex wives and numerous ex girlfriends plus trying to arrange hook ups with men! Yet he acted like such a prude with me.

jazzyjazcons · 2020-03-08T23:08:53+00:00

How do you know you’re still saved in their phones?

Witchyko · 2020-03-09T13:34:51+00:00

Men don't understand the word "no" when it comes from women. So they keep your contact, just in case they are horny on some evening and want their free prostitute to fuck.

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