Why should men pay for anything?

08__80 · 2021-08-11T23:52:10+00:00

I'm cut pasting this from a comment I made a month ago:

When men start putting on makeup and getting their hair and nails done and eyebrows waxed, and wearing tight clothes and special underwear to make their bulges and butts look nice and perky for us, and waxing their assholes just in case we feel like digging around back there, maybe then we can talk about going halfsies.

When men start to fear that we could just take them someplace and do whatever we want and get them pregnant, and they have to roll the dice each time and pray that it doesn't happen, and they have to text their friends every half hour to let them know that they are still safe, still alive, maybe then we can go halfsies.

When one word from us that we pumped and dumped them ruins their entire reputation, maybe then we can go halfsies.

When we can use men like our emotional dumpster mommymaidprostitutes, and they will take our shit no matter how badly we abuse them because society tells them from birth that they are nothing without a girlfriend, that they are literally incomplete without us, maybe then we can go halfsies.

When I can burp and fart and sit around in shit stained underwear with my hairy legs and armpits playing video games while a man raises my kids, cleans my house, makes my food, and sucks my clit, maybe then we can go halfsies.

We are not equal.

_RustInPiece_ · 2021-08-11T23:51:25+00:00

Your last sentence killed me 😂😂😂

ivy176 · 2021-08-12T01:31:42+00:00

Men don't have to pay for anything, it's not like FDS women are going to threaten them and force them to 😂 I just wouldn't stay involved with a man if he wasn't showing certain characteristics that I need for marriage. I don't know why they act like it's so complicated or like it's some kind of abuse. No one should keep seeing anyone if they turn them off! I would only want a husband who's chivalrous and who will provide for us when the time comes to have kids (I'm pregnant now). I would only want a man who dated one woman at a time, who didn't use OLD, who wasn't really on that type of dating scene and I only date men who I vet as an acquaintance first. So it's totally reasonable to expect him to put in effort when we're dating with the intention of a relationship.

Guys on reddit say, "But you can't invest in someone you've never met! And how do you know the date will go anywhere beyond a bit of fun??" as a justification to put no effort in. Well, I don't date strangers for a start, it wouldn't be good for me. Secondly, I am NEVER available for just "fun". A man I'd be interested in isn't available for anything casual either. We meet on the same level with the same intentions. But reddit guys and players are convinced we want to ensnare every guy and force him to be what he's not. The whole point of FDS is vet hard, don't waste your time, move along!! These guys don't realise it's the women with lower self esteem who are opposite of FDS that are going to be the ones hanging around and trying to get them to invest. FDS women will be out of their hair in a heartbeat and they'd just seem unavailable. In fact, the redpill type guys would be confused by FDS women and more interested in them because the games aren't working. But they have this dumb idea that FDS women are going to be yelling about FDS on a date, and trying to twist their arm haha.

Some guys say "why would I spend loads of money on any random chick I date if I barely know her?"... I can understand why they feel that way, but feeling that way is why I wouldn't date them. I'm not interested in a man who is desperately just trying to date anyone and has a revolving door of women, I'm not interested in a man who would date multiple women at once and who doesn't have vetting strategies of his own before he dates someone. I want someone who's compatible with me, so he needs to have a similar dating style to me.

People act like FDS is all about vetting and "demands" (expectations) and expect men to be some kind of slaves. I want a man who vets as hard as I do. I want a man who is as selective as I am. Otherwise he's probably immature, desperate or just looking for sex. That's why they can't be on OLD for me because OLD cuts out a lot of opportunities to properly vet someone. So yes, if a man has vetted me as being suitable to date and I have vetted him in the same way, there is no reason for him not to invest in me. We are not identical, he's a man and I'm a woman, our dating and flirting and sexual styles will not be identical. They should be very compatible but they won't be identical. I do certain things he appreciates that show I'm interested and he does certain things. I'm getting a near full body wax, hair coloured, makeup and lots of things he doesn't do. He's paying for dates he invites me on and other things that I don't do. There are more risks to my safety in general, and more risks to my body in being with him. Does that mean I'm seeking financial compensation? NO. I am seeking effort and investment, and he shows that through his actions, including the simple and small aspects of paying for a date that HE asked me to. It's really not that complicated and is pretty age-old stuff. I know married couples who are still standing at the supermarket checkout, paying half each. I never wanted a marriage like that.

Anyway I'm married and I only explain it this way for the male lurkers. Women obviously know it's not transactional but the lurkers don't get it. Dating strategy is there because it works. It's not the same thing as marriage dynamics, obviously you are a team when you are married and you live as such. Redpill men say "we go by womens actions, not what they say". Ok, well we see that men who want to go halves on dates are consistently even more problematic than the ones who pay. It has nothing to do with sugarbaby crap, which is harmful to women anyway. We can pay for meals and much more, it's not a need. Most importantly.. it doesn't matter for men who want to go dutch or want the woman to pay 100% (yep it happens), because we don't want to date them. Some men enjoy paying, it makes them feel good. We don't want men to suffer or be contorted into soneone they're not.. no matter how much venting goes on in this sub, everyone knows that focusing on the positives and what you want is better for you than focusing on horrible men with horrible behaviour. It's just unfortunate that there are SO. MANY. BAD. MEN. But I don't want men to suffer... I just want them to get out of my way so I can find a husband, which I did.

seraphinelysion · 2021-08-12T01:12:42+00:00

Why should men pay for anything?

Mm... No one said you had to, but if you want a gf/future wife, then you should want to. Otherwise, stfu and die mad scrotes!

DifferentBar6 · 2021-08-12T15:53:24+00:00

They don't have to pay. Their choice.

I just wouldn't even entertain the idea of dating a man that didn't pay.

Title	Why should men pay for anything?
Author	Muffcakelord
Upvotes	215
Comments	11
Date	August 11, 2021 11:44 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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