Why we don't do "girlfriend" title

luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2021-06-27T18:46:30+00:00

Lmao I love that she says “shut the fuck up”. I’ve gotten the best information and negotiated contracts by simply asking a question and being quiet. Or just being quiet. Men tell on themselves when we’re quiet. Even just a blank look and keeping your mouth shut will make men stumble and reveal themselves.

pickmieshaexorcist · 2021-06-27T20:06:45+00:00

I saw a meme here on Reddit years ago, girlfriend vs wife and the benefits of each to a Reddit neckbeard. The girlfriend was drawn pornified with the stereotypical “big titty” look and pros listed were things like “BJs 24/7, sammiches, she looks up to you and laughs at all your jokes” just basic servile garbage. The Wife was, of course, no fun at all (specifically no sex because these guys only care about MUH DICK). And she takes all your money, natch (never mind she might be raising YOUR kids and sacrificing HER career, ssshhh don’t talk about that).

So yeah, the LVM admit they’d rather just have girlfriends, who exist to serve them and fulfill fantasies.

fak_beauty_standards · 2021-06-27T21:04:44+00:00

Li Lin must be on FDS since she tags #femaledatingstrategy often and is very compliant

NinjaCynic · 2021-06-28T00:45:01+00:00

"Why are you playing house with a boy? Are you 12 years old?"

Yes! This! I'm taking it and using it as often as I can!

Geocities_SEO_Expert · 2021-06-28T01:52:31+00:00

I agree with this, but I think it's something you don't tell to men. Men have caught onto the fact that women think like this, and use the same language to enforce their usual lying, no commitment, Peter Pan bullshit.

OneTrueMel · 2021-06-27T16:49:59+00:00

Wow, this is brill

wepersisted · 2021-06-27T19:57:29+00:00

This is gold. Precisely the reason I refuse to be anyone's "girlfriend." I will never have a boyfriend. I only have suitors until I find a man who enriches my life to such a degree that marriage or lifelong commitment looks appealing.

Ladies, please consider only dating multiple men if you choose to date at all. In my opinion, dating doesn't benefit us otherwise. Here are a few of my observations from dating openly over the past year (collectively, as I didn't date during the height of the pandemic):

I'm able to maintain emotional distance and focus on priorities for my life, without being influenced by anyone else. After work, I have plenty of time to dedicate to family, friends, and my own hobbies, instead of having a scrote insist on taking over my schedule.
I never make the first move and waste no time on trying to catch the attention of men. By dating openly, I make no commitments, and I make it clear that it is the guy's responsibility to show initiative, put in effort, and make plans if he wants me to block out time from my calendar for him. It is an honor and a privilege to date me, and if anyone doesn't live up to this, the trash can take itself out.
I have met plenty of scrotes, but I simply block and delete at the first red flag. Plus, I never stop vetting. A man can always exhibit HVM traits, but end up being a LVM or NVM overnight. I don't let myself get discouraged because dating is never the most important aspect of my life. Dating openly helps me protect myself from falling into the trap of feeling enamored or ignoring any warning signs. For example, I never lend men money or pay for any part of the courting process. I dump any guy who says something misogynistic, whether it is overt or more subtle. I also don't sleep with anyone I date, and I personally refuse to become sexually intimate until I decide to get married. By having high standards and boundaries, I minimize the risk of heartbreak.
I have met quite a few men who seem HVM, as a result of dating openly. For example, one of my suitors is in grad school and, despite being a student, has been incredibly generous. Most importantly, it's on his own initiative. He has always put my needs first, and he understands that I'm not comfortable committing to him until he at least finishes school and is established in his career, like I am. On top of that, he plans all of our dates, has taken me to lovely shows and dinners, and given me everything from flowers to a laptop to designer bags as "just because" gifts. He doesn't do any of this because I need him to or because I expect it; rather, he hopes to make me genuinely happy and show that he can add value to my life. He knows I can take care of myself, but he wants to be able to take care of me. The point is regardless of what scrotes try to say, there are many men out there who know how to go above and beyond. Dating openly increases your chances of finding them and ultimately — the right person for you.

Dense_Cattle · 2021-06-27T17:09:12+00:00

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Japanese-Spaghetti · 2021-09-28T23:40:52+00:00

I love her tiktok account. She gives a lot of good advice to women

Title	Why we don't do "girlfriend" title
Author	fak_beauty_standards
Upvotes	160
Comments	22
Date	June 27, 2021 4:40 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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