Divorce tragedy.

Phantom_Spark · 2021-06-09T10:39:49+00:00

And this is the bottom line. A woman can’t do this to a man. It requires laws the state to do this. Burning through savings that neither will get. Then at the end, even more will be taken from him and he’ll be so bad off that some go homeless or have to beg family for help. That’s not even covering retirement. When you spent your life being responsible to save for retirement and then it’s stripped away… what’s the point?

The state is the core problem with divorce. The state won’t change. That means we have to. Stop getting married and stop entering relationships which have legally binding clauses.

DemocraticDystopia · 2021-06-09T11:11:31+00:00

I have to thank the men who have gone through this crap and posted about it. I had an LTR of 7 years dump me; I had an engagement ring for her... i will soon sell it and will never buy a new one. These dudes have saved me so much grief and cost by being canaries in the coalmine

Ody_ssey · 2021-06-09T10:32:18+00:00

It'll take years for men to make a significant impact on daily lives of people by opting out of marriage. Untill then feminism and family court will continue to get their preys. Men are so heavily brainwashed.

Unforsaken_Dick · 2021-06-09T10:42:56+00:00

Why do women do this man, why does life have to be this way..

felafelsmoke · 2021-06-09T10:33:16+00:00

Marriage is a racket

Salladus · 2021-06-09T13:29:09+00:00

Reminds me of my ex. "Let's keep the negotiations peaceful, no need for lawyers"

Few days later: "Give me X money or I will accuse you of Y"

Such peace. Much honor. Very placid.

teelolws · 2021-06-09T11:02:27+00:00

Move all life savings into bitcoin, hide the wallet encryption key somewhere only you'll ever find it, declare bankruptcy, hire someone to smuggle you out of the country

tflst5 · 2021-06-09T13:06:33+00:00

Been there, done that. Boy does this bring back some sour memories.

I remember how naïve i was about the process. My ex claimed it would be amicable. We decided to go to mediation to lower the costs. The first deposit was 2500$ and i paid it. I remember thinking - i wonder if the lawyers will really need all of that? That money evaporated in the first month..

At the end, i still got off easy compared to some dudes.

The one thing that bothered me is that i was given the responsibility for paying both of our legal costs - suggested by our mediator. This was total bullshit, but i was strong-armed into it. Apparently if i had not agreed she could have sought some type of alimony for lawyer support which was NOT disqualified due to her infidelity. More horseshit laws if you ask me. So the mediator told me this option was better for me and less complicated. Probably a lie (she was a woman too).

So what happened is that my ex realized she could use the process as a means to extract greater concessions from me. Because every time we went through an amendment to our agreement - i had to pay all the attorneys who revised, reviewed, and consulted with each other. Each revision, no matter how minor, was several hundred dollars - sometimes more. And each time it was done, i would sign and she would then decide she wanted something else - starting the process all over again and pressuring me to agree or else she would persist until i was broke.

MotorAggressive5115 · 2021-06-09T11:29:35+00:00

This is toxic feminity rearing its ugly head in the gynocentric matriarchy, this woman probably feels justified in her divorce rape of OP because of her own humiliation and anger. These people usually babble about how empathetic they are, projection really, they know compared to men they are complete monsters.

beardedbliss · 2021-06-09T11:14:51+00:00

All I can say is: Divorce is expensive. Why? Because it's worth it!

alienmuseum · 2021-06-09T14:00:43+00:00

Let this be an example for the lurkers. That's just a price tag for consultation. If you add in the stress and the day-to-day b.s. that you have to deal with while working, it's a no brainer. Don't get married!

UltimateShame · 2021-06-09T13:02:32+00:00

This is just madness. Most children are saying the will never get married, then the hormones kick in and that's it with the clear mind. I am happy I never lost that mind. Have a clear mind, it could save your life.

AeternusDoleo · 2021-06-09T14:25:02+00:00

"Divorce is such a fucking racket".

He still does not get it... Divorce is the final part of the racket. There's a way to never get divorced... to avoid even the chance of it. But I'm sure he's yet to figure that out.

Any bets that he'll go for round 2 in a couple of years?

Legs2Big_1 · 2021-06-09T13:41:29+00:00

We tell people not to marry, then they find out that betting with over 50% failure rate is not that good of a choice. 🤷‍♂️

thesoloronin · 2021-06-09T14:20:57+00:00

Welcome to Reality. Simulation Over.

Twisted_Schwartz_ · 2021-06-09T14:54:55+00:00

Marriage is the racket, Divorce is just the reveal.

Wealthy_and_Stealthy · 2021-06-09T11:12:08+00:00

Brutal. Gotta extort the last bits from the poor man who finally woke up from the blue pill fantasy.

The system punishes him for it. "You should've never tried to escape the plantation, now face the consequences."

bmihlfeith · 2021-06-09T14:12:16+00:00

Ha ha….I laugh, that’s chump change. Mine was $80k when it was all said and done. She spent $90k.

As a divorced man it would be recklessly irresponsible for me to ever encourage my son to get married.

6stringfreedom4ever · 2021-06-09T15:17:18+00:00

Is your GF worth $300,000? That’s what it cost me AFTER the divorce.

thefudmaster · 2021-06-09T15:34:35+00:00

My divorce cost me over $100,000 and spending that money was completely unnecessary.

pkarlmann · 2021-06-09T13:49:18+00:00

With stories like these I always imagine the divorce lawyer(s) having to go through a divorce themselves and having to pay that money to their chicks...

No_Raspberry6058 · 2021-06-09T16:42:32+00:00

Fighting for the right to live in your own home. That's shameful.

bfte2 · 2021-06-09T13:17:30+00:00

Something tells me it'll cost him much more than that...

Canute87 · 2021-06-09T15:57:14+00:00

once a man gets married the vultures start to circle .

used2befast · 2021-06-09T16:24:33+00:00

My legal bills topped $120k. I was getting consistent bills of $10k / mo.

Not sure why any young man in today’s world would ever entertain entering the contract of marriage .

geocitiesuser · 2021-06-09T16:20:39+00:00

It was cheaper for me to just give my ex wife everything. That's how messed up the divorce racket is.

Lawyers get paid a lot of money to do very little work. I greatly dislike having to use them.

febreezing_hobos · 2021-06-09T17:21:18+00:00

Marriage is the leading cause of divorce. Change my mind.

butcheredalivev3 · 2021-06-09T17:59:46+00:00

Of course, she wants all your money and the house and car. AWALT

Phrarr · 2021-06-09T18:24:31+00:00

Quote from WarGames is adequate here "A strange game. The only winning move is not to play."

TXJohn83 · 2021-06-09T18:58:48+00:00

Shit, I could do a copy-paste on that post about my own exp.

Miserable-Lemon · 2021-06-09T21:01:44+00:00

Fun fact : They drag things along because they know there's 9 chances out of 10 he will be paying hers anyway

altair43 · 2021-06-09T14:55:38+00:00

Well he got married in 21st century. Now paying the price. Pretty sure would have called us "incel", "virgin" etc etc, if we had warned him when he was saying I DO.

Shimakaze4 · 2021-06-09T15:49:08+00:00

I'm a firm believer in this being not only a factor in male suicide, but in the murder of women. The state pushes men so far, removes their entire lives and everything they have worked for and will work for in the future, it's no wonder some just snap and kill the woman. The state endlessly bitches about family violence, yet fails to recognise that their oppressive, anti male laws make family violence worse, both by giving women almost a free hand do treat people however they want and by forcing men to breaking point. Make the laws fairer and stop both destroying and allowing women to destroy men and your domestic violence problem will solve itself.

Johnnntena · 2021-06-09T15:58:28+00:00

Divorce is a money-making industry. Take a look at those divorce lawyers. They laughing their ways to the bank with fat billing from the couples and admin fees and buying their next porsche........

Long_Range_Shooter · 2021-06-09T16:14:27+00:00

This is a perfect example of why women try to drag a marriage out until the guy is in his late forties, early fifties before shutting off the sex. If you're the guy and you decide to leave, you will lose almost everything, plus you don't have enough working years left to rebuilt your nest egg.

I watched a guy screw everything up in his mid thirties when he was drunk and told the wife he was getting out when the kids turned 18. You see he was going to be forty-forty one when that happened.

Two and four years later the wife had two planned oops moments and he was now a dad of four kids and he wasn't going anywhere nor was his paycheck until he was at least fifty six.

NoMarriageNoKids · 2021-06-09T17:06:17+00:00

That's what divorce attorneys do. The first they do they is have you fill out a form listing income, assets, etc. it tells them how much they can get out of the marital estate.

I went through the same thing. And, 12 years later I'm still paying boatloads of child support even thought the $50-60k in attorney fees are over. Now, it's worth noting that my ex is pretty well-off and I was taken to the cleaners. She's already moved in a new betabux provider. So, now her household has 2.5 incomes (hers, his, and half of mine) and I'm struggling on just half of mine.

I just hope my boys have heard and seen enough over the years to not make the same mistake. I've had the mgtow talk with them and they've seen the divorce and family court carnage upfront. I'm pretty sure they won't fall in the same trap. If they did I don't even think I would attend the wedding. I'd have a hard time not speaking up at the "if anyone approves of this union speak now or forever hold your peace" part.

All I can say is to be as a amicable as possible. Sounds like you are already. But, these cunts are educated and encouraged by their attorneys on how to suck you dry of every penny possible.

The good news is that once it's over you'll be able to build back up unless you have a ton of child support. That'll keep you in the poor house until it runs out... meanwhile, she'll be living high on the hog.

Getting married was the single most expensive mistake of my life x 1,000.

coldfusion718 · 2021-06-09T17:12:37+00:00

Nothing is stopping him from spending that money now. He can go burn most of it and then tell her lawyers they’re running out of money.

Bet you the lawyer will advise her to settle ASAP.

ariverinshetland · 2021-06-09T17:51:07+00:00

It is not only the divorce but the very act of marriage is a scam and a racket. It is surprising that men blame the symptom but not the cause. Marriage is the problem.

mrtinlv · 2021-06-09T18:50:48+00:00

If possible use one lawyer to get divorced. They will be forced to act like a mediator.

Cultural_Area · 2021-06-09T20:24:09+00:00

Another blue pilled taken to the cleaners xD They never learn

Actavis_Prometh · 2021-06-09T23:42:27+00:00

Think about what’s being said here.

2 people no longer want to be in a relationship. But because the man signed on the dotted line, breaking up requires paying the woman like it’s a fucking lawsuit. Absolute insanity.

I’m married. I have known my wife since 3rd grade. We were best friends before dating, and I know for a fact that not only was she a virgin before marriage, but she never even fooled around with another man. If I was in any other situation at all with a woman, absolutely zero chance would I be getting married.

loldave87 · 2021-06-10T01:11:38+00:00

A lot of us here know about MGTOW but a lot of people don’t know better it’s important to see these red flags in a woman still sad seeing this happen though. Men are getting financially ruined.

No-Magazine2896 · 2021-06-10T04:11:01+00:00

Drop your attorney and defend yourself. You can hire a low cost paralegal to file papers. Courts are surprisingly welcoming to non attorneys in family court. Also your stbx will stop dragging shit out when she realizes it isn’t costing you anything. Women can be real cunts.

ChrisPTY507 · 2021-06-10T08:35:32+00:00

This is revolting

PrestigiousCarpet8 · 2021-06-10T09:56:16+00:00

I knew a guy who told his ex that if she just signed settlement papers and agreed to reasonable child support, he would give what they would have spent on attorney's fees (roughly $30,000). She refused.....so he quit working, spent his entire savings, sold everything, and went to jail multiple times for not paying support. Funny thing is, he was perfectly happy with going to jail just to spite her. Lost track of him, but I'm hoping he moved and her life crumbled around her.

whyserenity · 2021-06-09T15:14:41+00:00

There is many things you can do. Unfortunately they are all illegal.

100PaperCutsToTheWab · 2021-06-09T15:42:57+00:00

Hard for me not to think: If you are stupid enough to get married nowadays, you deserve what comes to you.

teniceguy · 2021-06-09T18:09:19+00:00

Its called divorce rape for a reason.

blackmonday75 · 2021-06-09T19:19:57+00:00

Stbxw already 100k in the hole. And I’m worth like 200 billion less than Bezos. I don’t even think I’m worth a prime membership. All that money into a 529 for the kids would have went a long way.

thealphateam · 2021-06-09T19:23:40+00:00

My ex was the same way. No kids, just a house. I spent more in lawyer fees than we got out of the house. It went as far as seeing a judge because she was being so uncooperative. She had some crazy ass formula where she got like 80% of the assets. The judge said "it should be split 50/50". She tried to explain her formula. Judge "it should be split 50/50". She tried again, he cut her off slamed the gavel and said "50/50" it is. The look on her face was almost worth it. I didn't say a thing besides confirming my identity. The actual trial lasted like 3 minutes.

Mboy353 · 2021-06-09T22:50:00+00:00

What we really need is a change in legislation. All these woes against women are not enough until we make it legally impossible for this to get to this point

starkfuture · 2021-06-10T08:34:09+00:00

And still the idiot doesn’t get it.

Marriage is the racket. Divorce is the bailout for the female.

kleinburg11 · 2021-06-10T11:27:59+00:00

why do you guys keep paying? take your savings and run

ir0nm0ney · 2021-06-09T16:12:54+00:00

Should have thought about that before you married a hoe

Title	Divorce tragedy.
Author	CenturianMonk
Upvotes	541
Comments	124
Date	June 9, 2021 10:26 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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