Dispelling a very common misconception I’ve been hearing a lot.

JRL76182 · 2020-02-04T17:45:15+00:00

\<sup>This\</sup><sup>...</sup> is MGTOW.

johnph240472 · 2020-02-04T17:45:57+00:00

This is my experience pretty much exactly. I work all day and come home to peace and quiet. I hate most of the shit on TV and my music tastes are more alternative than mainstream. I can work out or take a bike ride or just a nice stroll with no hassles and no drama. I used to think living alone was quite sad and pathetic but now I feel sorry for the simp slaves who have very little peace and free time.

ZeusTheSeductivEagle · 2020-02-04T18:17:37+00:00

It's just fear. Most wont even have the opportunity to be alone for an extended period of time until after college. You will be with your family, then roommates. Then gf. At least half your life. I'm in my 30s and I have been alone for almost 2 years of it. (Living alone) it's crazy how much effort I used to put into social acceptance. Like playing video to long or just having to be friendly or share. Man I can never go back.

SunRunner82 · 2020-02-04T18:21:44+00:00

Man... yes. I relate to this so much. 10 years ago I was a crap job working, weekend drinking, poor man with a single mom piece. Fast forward to now, I live in a different state, have my own place with everything I need, oh and I just ran my 3rd marathon two weeks ago in addition to numerous other road and trail races.

Maximum_Afternoon · 2020-02-04T18:43:52+00:00

I put things down and they don’t leave that spot.

Holy shit, it's amazing, right????

MuleFool42 · 2020-02-04T18:43:42+00:00

Totally agree. Being alone is the best. I'm basically my own favorite person so I don't need to seek happiness from outside of myself. We should all strive for that. I like human contact too, but on my own terms and in small amounts. The rest of the time, I'm on my own schedule.

Great post!

TheMF-J · 2020-02-04T19:15:55+00:00

Coming home to a full house is exhausting, I would dread that all afternoon. I love my private sanctuary to rest and relax after a hard long day’s work and workout. My soul would be constantly burned out otherwise

MajIssuesCaptObvious · 2020-02-04T19:23:42+00:00

Man, I remember feeling this inner peace some months after my ex wife left. At first, I was asking her to come back, but then I realized I could now do whatever I wanted and not have to ask "permission" or do chores that someone assigned me. I also didn't have to delegate anything to anyone. I could do it all myself and be happy with the result.

Since then (17 years ago), I've lived a great life alone. I've had a couple of relationships and a bunch of flings since then, but the rules have always been the original MGTOW rules: No cohabitation, no marriage.

Yami-no-Kami · 2020-02-04T18:28:50+00:00

Perfectly written. I moved out of my moms home almost a year ago and now that I'm used to be alone, it feels like a big piece of freedom. The apartment looks a bit messy? Who gives a shit? Need to buy something in the late evening? I'm free to go. No blocked bathrooms and if I feel like having some company, I just can visit one of my family members or meet a friend of mine.

But I guess living alone is perceived differently by different people. I love living on my own now while doing so would be poison to my grandma since she needs someone around her.

CHAD_TDK · 2020-02-04T19:15:51+00:00

Oh yeah! I love my place, I get home, put on some music, I already know what I am preparing for dinner, and then it's eating, drinking, often a bit of working, then TV when it's late. Every other night on average I am out for some event or activity, and - on average - every other night one of my FWB is coming over for sex (often before they go on a Tinder date).

Life is grand! I am the King of my Castle!

RedPillMissionary · 2020-02-04T18:49:49+00:00

If we find a good group of friends, physical activity, intellectual stimulation, then it's easy to not even think about women at all. Seriously I only think about them for physical satisfaction.

This also depends on your previous experience with women though. I've been backstabbed by female coworkers, relatives, and romantic partners. So the drama and risk was never worth it.

SkidNutz · 2020-02-05T04:15:15+00:00

A home is not empty if it is filled with the things you love.

MGTOW_BEASTMODE · 2020-02-04T20:31:14+00:00

Just the other day I was celebrating the fact that when I put down my keys they stay there until I touch them again in my nice comfy house.

What a simple yet lovely feeling to experience.

2020-02-04T21:02:12+00:00

I'm a single dad yet for 6 years I lived with my son and his mom and at one time her girlfriend(knocked up my lesbian friend). Now I've been living alone for a little over 2 years and I LOVE coming home to an empty home. At this point the only person I want to live with is my 8 year old son yet when he visits me there are times when he wants to be alone in the bedroom to have "me time". I'm 39 and this is the 3rd time in my life I've lived alone and it's awesome. if a girl comes over to hang out or fuck, next day she is gone. Do not have to deal with her shit. For 6 years I used to wonder why I never wanted to go home. I didn't fuck my sons mom on a regular basis, maybe we've fucked 5 times in 8 years yet other than that....I agree with all the points you mention. It's so good to be a man living on his own.

BertTheWelder · 2020-02-04T22:17:37+00:00

It’s the small things. I get up and make as much noise as I want. If I want to crank the stereo while I shower, I do. If I want to make breakfast, I do, and I don’t worry about whether anyone else is hungry or not. I binge watch my own bullshit TV shows, I drink or smoke (or not) if I want to, and I never worry about the lid on the toilet seat.

You can’t know yourself if you don’t live by yourself for a decent amount of time. By yourself - no roommates either.

qemist · 2020-02-04T20:28:59+00:00

True. For many married men coming home is starting job no. 2, and they like job no. 1 better. They're the guys who work late despite not being busy.

KING_CPB · 2020-02-04T20:53:24+00:00

This exactly. There are also women enjoying the freedom as well. WE go our own way and leave each other alone.

hillbilly_mgtow · 2020-02-04T23:29:53+00:00

Only the weak think this is a bad thing. Most of society is weak

DanTheLionRuler · 2020-02-05T04:11:29+00:00

Holy crap, couldn’t agree more! In fact I’ve became more disciplined than when I was living with my insufferable cunt of an ex-wife: I wake up early, get my 7 hours of sleep, hit the gym 4 to 5 times a week, cook what I fucking want, watch what I please, have my bike parked in my living room (otherwise it gets rusty), I get to read, I decorate to my own damn taste, it’s just freedom. And not to mention the quietness and calmness as opposed to the nagging and having that feeling to get home to a second boring and not paid kind of job, go your own way fellas, you won’t regret it!

fmanly · 2020-02-04T19:55:02+00:00

There is a common misconception that coming back from work to an empty home is depressing

For many it is. Maybe not for you.

I'm somewhere in-between.

The key here is that you have to recognize that it doesn't HAVE to be this way, and what needs to change isn't your circumstances so much as yourself.

I think the key is that if you think there is a void in your life, simply sticking other people into that void, women or otherwise, probably isn't going to fix the problem. If you crave external validation what you need to fix is your craving. Simply trying to feed your codependency won't fix the problem.

But, we should also not just dismiss men who feel lonely out of hand. They really do feel that way, and this is probably much more common than the man who feels happiest sleeping under the stars alone with his dog. The key is to understand that this is an issue within yourself, and it is one that you can work to improve on.

GeneralKinetics89 · 2020-02-04T20:27:33+00:00

This is my life as well. It's great.

simplisticallysimple · 2020-02-04T22:12:19+00:00

When you rent a place, do you want to live alone or with a roommate? There you go.

Solo_and_Simple · 2020-02-04T22:18:22+00:00

Amen. It's the difference between solitude and loneliness. I love my solitude. To me, solitude means freedom; it means self-direction; it means peace and quiet.

I lived with a woman for a few years, when I was married. Although there were some nice times, the majority of the time and energy were focused on her and/or her child -- their words, their stories, their needs, their moods, their activities. I would have to sequester myself, in order to get any peace. She was a nice person, but she brought a lot of complications, stress, and noise into my life.

I didn't grow personally or spiritually at all during those years. It was sort of like entering a stasis field. I remember after the divorce, it was like my spirit finally returned. I had been miserable. I felt very lonely at first, because I'd spent so much time attached, I had sort of lost myself. It took me a while before I was able to reconnect with the self I was before the marriage. One thing I learned from that is that marriage is not for me. It felt like someone else's life. I am meant to fly solo.

I think it's an achievement, to be able to enjoy your time alone. A lot of people cannot. As someone (Proust, I think) said, most of the problems in the world were created by people who couldn't just sit in a room by themselves. Or as someone else put it, if you cannot be alone, you are a slave.

wizwocket · 2020-02-04T22:40:27+00:00

Age, wisdom and experience; welcome.

roxon89 · 2020-02-04T23:10:02+00:00

This is largely true but with a caveat for me.

When my ex and I got divorced, I got the house. It was a fairly big house and I have my kids half the time. When they are not around, it’s definitely too big for just me. It’s got a bit of a mausoleum feel to it. I’m probably going to downsize.

paulpmoc · 2020-02-05T00:08:26+00:00

Being alone is awesome as long as you are comfortable with just yourself.

avtarius · 2020-02-05T00:51:22+00:00

Without that normie narrative, people won't be spending as much money on socialising and aesthetics to impress others, to "fill the void" so to speak.

Capitalism is part of the problem.

down_vote_militia · 2020-02-05T03:15:29+00:00

I agree 100%, but one day I'm going to retire. I love an empty house now; I wonder what it's going to be like when I don't have most of my day filled with stuff to do.

I guess I need to find stuff to fill my day when I'm retired.

trpbritguy · 2020-02-05T09:07:58+00:00

I'm married (long story) and I can tell you, coming home to an empty house is absolute bliss..

2020-02-05T09:44:30+00:00

There is a common misconception that coming back from work to an empty home is depressing

Been doing it for 10 years now and I love it more and more. Privacy and peace and quiet (when you want it) are priceless.

Chill-BL · 2020-02-05T10:38:34+00:00

coming back to an empty home was the point of getting that home in the first place.

Ones own little kingdom though it may be small, it can be the greatest place on earth.

MunmunkBan · 2020-02-05T11:11:03+00:00

I also love a dog.

Frinkst21 · 2020-02-05T11:15:53+00:00

A lot of men are bored, they have no things to spend all their time on. For a lot of men women become a distraction from the emptiness. It's easier to waste time and accept the meaninglessness together with another person. That's why I think MGTOW is so important. Set up your life the way you want it first, then you can maybe get a girlfriend who fits into your life.

Chilael · 2020-02-04T19:59:33+00:00

I think that when someone quote that phrase, they are talking about being alone. Fine, you can do all this things, but, you'll have nobody to talk to, nobody to open to, etc. It can be countered using the internet, though, so yeah, not really depressing, I guess.

Naz_3000 · 2020-02-05T02:56:54+00:00

Your life sounds like it's still sucks with out chics. And as if you were a beta male when you did have a chic.

Title	Dispelling a very common misconception I’ve been hearing a lot.
Author	Road-Side-Bomb
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Comments	54
Date	February 4, 2020 5:25 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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