An excerpt from Rudyard Kipling's poem "If"

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster

    And treat those two impostors just the same;   

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken

    Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,

    And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings

    And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings

    And never breathe a word about your loss;

I've watched, read, and listened to many of you idiots larp these points for the last year and it's probably time I break some of it down so that a few of you can actually start to unscrew your mentals.

All of these terms deal with a few fundamental principles. King among them is this: the stalwart acceptance of sacrifice, loss, and negative consequences.

Outcome Independence and DNGAF

Somewhere along the lines, you may have come to the nihilistic conclusion of "nothing matters so I don't care about an outcome." And that makes sense, because you suck and are stupid. You took the most autistic approach to understanding the term DNGAF, saw a modicum of success and tried to firekeep that success with your facade of indifference.

We see right through it, we know you care. You're a soft little baby with your precious marbles. You're smart enough to know what the Streisand Effect is, and are trying to trick the people around you into not seeing your special thing. You'll think "Wow, I've hidden it in plain sight!" but you haven't. This why you seem butthurt. Because it's obvious. You're fake. A poser who can't even own up to his own wants and desires. Here's the kicker: you are not actually supposed to NOT CARE. Not having a goal is the same as not having a mission. DNGAF and mission are not at odds.

Horns talked about this more or less indirectly with his post on initiations emotionally investing in an outcome is not only okay, but it is a prerequisite to being fully deployed.

This is when Outcome Independence comes in. With investing there is risk, and when there is risk there is loss. You aren't supposed to act like a baby-back bitch when stuff doesn't work out. Sure, be disappointed. You're allowed to have feelings, you neanderthal. But you are in control - having OI means you are not going to betray yourself or break frame simply because life with all of it's inevitable downs and even further downs happens.

Let's boil this down.

If you want to be Outcome Independent, you need to accept loss as it comes and sacrifice as a necessary evil to live a desireble life. Stop complaining about it. No more longing in the rearview mirror. You're moving forward.

Mental Point of Origin

Great, so now you've accepted loss and sacrifice. Issue is all these other people. Mom says college is the right path, Dad says go into the trades. Your pot head older brother tells you the block chain will set you free. How do you navigate all these opposing viewpoints? What am I supposed to sacrifice for? What am I willing to lose?

Doesn't matter, more important is if you take someones advice, everything that follows is your fault not theirs. You need to make some serious decisions about what is right and wrong. Then you need to start behaving as such.

This is the unfortunate part: People will reject you for your decisions. Good, bad or otherwise. Odds are if you are here, those "People" is really just your wife. Maybe it's your kids. Lord willing they will come back to you, but maybe not. And that's life, and it sucks so make a gameplan and make the most out of the rubble that's left.

Developing Mental Point of Origin requires you to make a decision or to hold a belief and stand by the fact it's your own shit in the toilet - not someone elses. Any decision you make is YOUR OWN. Your thoughts, beliefs, views, everything. Those "heroes" in your life should be dead, nobody should be more capable of making decisions for you, than you. (Though, many of you seem to be trying to outsource being your own origin on here - to that I'll say if I have to live your life and lead your wife, I get to spend your money, and screw your woman. So DM me your address and bank account information.)

Many of you are not capable of dealing with the heat the transpires from putting your ego to the flame. And good, most of you have allowed the last 45+ years of your life to be lived at the accordance of other people because you fear rejection.

And for that you will be rejected.

“‘I know your works: you are neither cold nor hot. Would that you were either cold or hot! So, because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth."

Revelation 3:15‭-‬16 ESV

Make a fucking decision.