A tough situation, need advice

spexer · 2016-10-07T17:46:47+00:00

You cannot make her NOT want the neighbor.

You can make yourself more desirable.

You admit you are not sexy attractive. Focus on fixing that.

Don't make things easy for her to hook up with him ("hey honey, can you and neighbor finish off this wine, I am going to take the kids to the park!")... but dont guard-dog her in fear- she will see that and you will look pathetic.

So STFU about it.

if you are insistent to try to do something about this, you can:

befriend the guy and get some guy time with you. Never mention this, but know that his internal guy code might keep him from hooking up with a bud's girl... so become a bud.
make an offhand comment while watchign a show where an affair happens, that you cannot believe people stand for such things, and you would divorce in an instant. say it once with conviction, and dont mention it again.
setup some spyware /keylogger/etc to be aware of any transgressions.

But most all - get to lifting.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-10-07T17:47:09+00:00

Same as everyone else. If she cheats, nothing you can do. Chances are this is insecurity and you'll only make it worse by addressing it.

Keep your eyes open, and head down. Back to work

chief_slap_ahoe · 2016-10-07T18:38:55+00:00

Dude she is the oldest teenager and you have to treat her as such. What do you do with a teenager that is doing something you don't like you don't let them know that it's getting to you because it intensifies it and makes it worse. If you tell her that it makes you uncomfortable chances are you'll make the tingles intensify.

drty_pr · 2016-10-07T20:24:48+00:00

Your post is kind of vague. Is he a cool guy or is he a too cool guy? Does he have a wife? I mean if your wife is going to hang out there and he doesn't have a wife WTF? If this is the case did you let it get this way by your own insecurity?

if he is a cool dude, befriend him for sure
if he is a douche, be better than him by lifting and living with integrity
if he doesn't have a wife, that is fucked that she goes and hangs out there
if he does have a wife, game her man. My neighbors wife loves seeing a young, slim, muscular dude with tattoos coming over to get his daughter with no shirt on

Also, wanting to leave is super pussy man. Why would you let your wifes (possible) attraction for some dude dictate how you go about your day? Alpha mother fucker!

TheFamilyAlpha · 2016-10-07T17:25:34+00:00

Why are you leaving and not taking your family on trips to do shit?

Why haven't you laughed in her face about her crush, showing how little it affects you because you know if she blows the neighbor you'll leave, share the kids, and follow your mission while fucking other chicks?

Why don't you directly confront the neighbor in a masculine way, going over with the wife and then dropping the joke about how it's so funny your wife is always over there and that you didn't know he liked to gossip with the ladies?

MRPguy · 2016-10-07T17:37:30+00:00

Also, I'm not nor have I ever been fat, I'm a way too skinny type.

Same effect as being fat. To the hamster brain, both say "this guy can't protect me and his sperm isn't worth anything either."

ex_addict_bro · 2016-10-08T20:32:41+00:00

Other guys gave you advice and I guess you're going to follow some.

But, do you know what's funny?

When I moved out after divorce and moved in into a rented flat, I quickly realised that I just became the guy other guys hide their wives from.

I sometimes come from work early. All those bored SAHMs pushing their babies in strollers... dying to talk with someone who's grown up...

Few weeks after I moved in, I had some diapers that my youngest developed a rash in response to. I gave them to one of my neighbours, a young girl, who also happens to have a 1.5 yr old kid. As it came out, her kid's ass didn't like them too so she returned them to me, when I was going out with my kids. She was with her husband, who didn't saw me before and acted like she knew me well. Should have seen his face.

Few weeks after that... I hear, at my work, that one of the nurses had a quarrel with her husband about me. I gave her a taste of some food I ordered when we had a shift together. She told that to her hubby, hubby went a bit insecure. Well, guys, this is why you need game - her husband is younger than me, he's a policeman, he works in a more "manly" job than I do... but still, he's insecure. TBH, I'd be insecure if I were him too, statistically he is already divorced (both under 25, from a small town, together for 6 yrs, married for 6 months, he's drinking too much according to her already).

I'm your neighbour, OP.

It didn't happen overnight.

AMA.

creating_my_life · 2016-10-07T17:45:32+00:00

Also, I'm not nor have I ever been fat, I'm a way too skinny type.

Equally as bad. Eat meat. Lift.

STFU and lift, build my own attraction, and subtle dread?

STFU. Eat. Lift. Focus on YOU. YOUR goals. YOUR mission. YOUR time. YOUR kids. You're at least a year away from any dread beyond DL1-5.

screechhater · 2016-10-08T14:18:19+00:00

Mate guarding is unattractive.

What the fuck is subtle dread ? Either you are in or not. Don't fuck around do the work, track it and see the improvements. Don't let fear of the branch swing paralyze you

who gives ten fucks if she is fucking the neighbor ? I bet you are one mother fucking omega that taped his dick to his leg after the third kid. Take the tape, hold on to your dick and rip the mother fucker off, set yourself free

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Bread_Pilled · 2016-10-07T17:44:51+00:00

Confidence is one of the most attractive traits. Unfortunately, the neighbor has created an earthquake that shaken this confidence to its core and unearthed the insecurity that was hiding beneath the surface.

It's become fairly clear to me that she has attraction for a neighbor of ours. His kids and my kids are best friends. . .Anyway, I can tell there is something there, to my detriment I've mentioned it to her and she denies any wrongdoing (but won't admit attraction).

Being threatened by a neighbor is an open display of a man having no confidence in himself, his spouse, or his family.

So Yes, the answer is to STFU (or, if you can manage to do so credibly, laugh at the schoolgirl crush). Yes, the answer is to lift, as this builds confidence. Yes the answer is to be attractive, and don't be unattractive.

But most importantly, display confidence. There is nothing more attractive than that.

Title	A tough situation, need advice
Author	CorruptDuck
Upvotes	5
Comments	36
Date	October 7, 2016 5:21 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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