There's a lot of talk in here about lifting and SMV etc. I accept that as fact. HOWEVER:

My shoulder is messed up, need surgery to fix and even then I'll need to be careful- any ideas around that? PT hasn't worked and actually makes things worse. So what are the alternatives?

Separately, I just started reading this subreddit. For all you guys struggling with your wives, this red pill stuff works in marriage and in the rest of life. I've been in managing people since I was 23 (I am 54 now). Succeeding at being in charge is all red pill.