Being Beta is Being Afraid.

stonepimpletilists · 2017-05-26T16:35:42+00:00

pikadildo · 2017-05-26T18:12:35+00:00

Fear defining "beta" is an oxymoron.

Alpha refers to behaviors that attract a woman's short term mating interest. Beta refers to behaviors that attract her long term mating interest. This is the crux of the dual mating strategy. Who on Earth is going to be attracted to a fearful long term mate?

There are behaviors that are not beta and also not alpha. You are describing gamma or omega--repulsive behaviors.

It seems like alpha/beta has become some great dichotomy where beta just means "not alpha" and nothing else exists. I don't know if it's because betas have decided to call themselves alphas or what.

RP_SuitScholar · 2017-05-27T13:54:06+00:00

Fear is insidious. It creeps in unbeknownst and masquerades as other things, other emotions, excuses…sound familiar?

I just finished reading The 50th Law by Robert Greene and 50 Cent. I gleaned a lot from it and in some ways enjoyed it more than the 48 Laws of Power which is one of my favorite reads of all time. One of the major points they drive home in the book is that all fear at its core is the fear of death. Since we as a species developed language our brains are the only ones that have developed the ability to understand abstract concepts and this means we are the only creatures able to grasp our mortality. This has given us an incredible evolutionary edge but it has also given our minds the habit of instinctively pulling us away from "danger": Death in all of its forms. 50 Cent was shot 9 times as a rapper and almost died. He came back from it having fully grasped his mortality, understanding that every moment he had was both temporary and had no more intrinsic value to the universe than a fly that lives 24 hours then dies. This was when he lost his fear of death and gained an outcome independence that allowed him to create a hustler's empire.

We should ask questions about our fears in a similar way that /u/man_in_the_world challenged us to use our anger as a diagnostic tool. Are you angry because your wife won't give you a blowie, or are you really angry because her not giving you a BJ means your SMV has dropped and that means you are not attractive and will face a lifetime of sporadic unfulfilling sex that will fill you with regret until you die? It's all a cycle: EGO, ANGER, FEAR. It's like the dark side of the force but instead of powers you get a sexless marriage.

I read a book last year entitled Better and Faster: The Proven Path to Unstoppable Ideas by Jeremy Gutsche. I do not recommend it overall but one powerful point he makes is that those who innovate have a "willingness to destroy" that others do not. I think this is because a willingness to destroy is a way to embrace death and transience. I will destroy this job if it does not fulfill my needs and help me achieve my goals. I will destroy this marriage if all levels of dread have failed over the proper passage of time. I will destroy this body that is weak and soft and unattractive through consistent lifting and nutrition. Embrace death and your fear of it, be willing to destroy. drops mic

spexer · 2017-05-26T21:11:10+00:00

We aren’t victims. We may passively accept the things that are not in our control, but the rest? Fuck it.

Best line of your speech. Dead on awesome.

And I get what you are trying to encourage, ... But I have to disagree with some of your ideas, or perhaps the confusing way they are presented...

You suggest betas have fear, and that alphas dont. That is just not true. We all have feelings come at us. We all have fears and doubts. It is what you do with those feelings that define you.

You’re planning scheming, prepping your AA, AM lines, making sure you’ve gleaned every bit of knowledge from MRP so you are prepared for war. You know what that is? Fear

I would't knock the newer MRP'ers for reading the sidebar and preparing themselves to be the best man they can in the current situation.... I wouldn't call that fear. They are taking action.

Think of our ego like the blanket that 5 year old wraps himself in. Hiding, shivering for fear of his simple imagination. On the other hand you can be a man and have your foot sticking out and think fuck it.

Our Ego can be a good thing. It can build us up and present our confidence. You are suggesting to be "brave" we should shed it?

Like I said, I get the overall vibe of your post as a positive encouragement... but you do not leave much room for the MRP-ers who are in the fake it till you make it stage. You are basically telling them to "forget any prepping, just get over your fears now and go for it all head-on".

FrozenSoil · 2017-05-26T16:34:42+00:00

When my irrational fears start taking hold I have to stop and ask myself, "What's the worst that could happen?" Once the decision is made, I have to own it.

Unless it's real, imminent, physical harm, there is nothing I should fear.

Title	Being Beta is Being Afraid.
Author	ReddJive
Upvotes	49
Comments	11
Date	May 26, 2017 3:38 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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