Help with Dread Game

SecretagentK · 2015-01-21T13:57:09+00:00

Dread doesn't necessarily mean you are leaving your home and using your absence yo create uneasiness in your wife.

You can successfully implement dread anywhere by being someone other women take an interest in.

For example say you take the family grocery shopping and the check out clerk is a fit girl. Tease and flirt a little. Your wife will instantly notice if the girl shows any interest and that will enact "dread" essentially anytime you can show to your wife that you have viable options besides her.

You can also mix in slight comments about how so and so from work keeps wanting to take you out to lunch but you prefer brining your own.

Also if your wife tries to call you out on flirting agree and amplify.

exbp · 2015-01-21T18:35:31+00:00

Successful dread is displaying your value. You can't expect to get results if you haven't taken care of the basics like improving your body, controlling your attitude, better clothes, etc.

You can leave the house all you want but if she thinks there's no way you could or would find a willing female option out there then it's pointless.

You can sabotage your own dread too by giving affection too much or too often, or declaring your unconditional love, or your own obvious dread of her options.

strategos_autokrator · 2015-01-21T15:05:08+00:00

. I can't help but feel like me leaving the home without explanation means I'm sacrificing time with my kids.

Not all dread is leaving home without explanation. Dread is about demonstrating with actions that you don't depend on her for your happiness. This includes working on your personal projects, your SMV, and on being a good father. This includes being happy by yourself with the kinds. Start some hobbies with the kids, or just take them by yourself to do fun stuff.

Wife is giving you the silent treatment? Let's go for icecream, kids!

alpha_n3rd · 2015-01-21T16:07:41+00:00

Married with children. Getting out of the house by yourself is something you should make a priority. Do it at least a couple times a week anyway. You sacrifice so much for your kids already. You have to take care of yourself as well. Make it a priority.

There's also other ways to build dread. Raise your SMV. Dress nicer. Lift. Use cologne. Tease her about it. Say you're trying to pick up girls at the office. If she's intransigent, give her the silent treatment.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-01-22T01:51:53+00:00

Dread is simply putting the slight fear (aka "Dread") that you are not a helpless fish flopping around inside your wife's boat.

Take the other little fish with you and go do something active. Kids gymnastics, martial arts, you name it. They can keep up with you and drive you into the ground even as toddlers.

En_sigma · 2015-01-21T14:10:47+00:00

I leave for dread. And go dark besides, no text or phone calls.

Dread works well when you take the kids with you but not her. Mine love me to death (and who wouldn't?), and both go out of their way to spend time with me. Kids would rather ignore a beta schmuck Dad, but cool Dad is a lot of fun and does cool stuff. Which sounds a lot like what women want and when everybody likes you but her her hamster poops out dread.

So when you leave, pick something you can do with them. When the kids have more fun with Dad than they do with Mom, and she gets to see that in a divorce, all of you would be happy without her you have accomplished dread.

StingrayVC · 2015-01-21T14:20:10+00:00

Take the kids with you. If you've got a mixture of boys and girls, even better. Just take the boys out to do boy things and the girls can do their thing. It gets the hamster going in all of them and you get to bond with your son(s).

nopbeentheredonethat · 2015-01-21T14:51:34+00:00

Question, are you still fit? Are you still active?

newlifeasredpill · 2015-01-21T14:54:17+00:00

Implementation of dread has to start with YOU.

Start lifting and dressing sharp. In a few months you can start to show the wife that other women want you

RBuddDwyer · 2015-01-23T20:58:00+00:00

Pook said it best:

You should be free as a bird, flapping around, singing, full of joy with life. Women want to ****** the bird and throw it in a cage (cage = committment).

When birds try to fly into the cage, wouldn't you think something is wrong with that bird? After all, who wants a bird that WANTS to be in the cage? No, women want the birds that are FREE, WILD, and BEAUTIFUL. They want A GOOD CATCH. Good Catches do not fly into cages. Only wounded or needy birds do.

Women will want to chase after the bird. The more "full of joy" the bird is, the more women want to catch it. Dread is nothing more than her realization that you are a catch other women want, and are willing to go after. Ideally, other women will start to chase you without you having to do anything at all. Your world is a fun world that many other women would love to follow you into, and only the women who appreciate that and realize what they would miss out on get to follow along for the ride. Dread is nothing more than her realization of that fact, and that you are willing and able to follow through with that. More from His Pookiness:

True passion can only be achieved when the man is willing to walk away at a moment's notice. After all, if you say "I love you!" after a coffee date, then the passion is gone because you have shown that you will not walk away.

When a woman treats you with indifference, you challenge her.

When a woman treats you with disrespect, you punish her by withdrawing your affection and time.

When a woman treats you well with respect and the affection you want, you reward her.

Leaving the house is just a demonstration to her that you have your life, and you will live it. You have exciting things that you want to do in your life, and she is invited to join in it if she proves herself to be a worthy companion. If she does not, well, she knows that you have options. Rollo Tomassi says it best:

Women’s sexual strategy is very schizophrenic – ideally women want a Man that other women want to fuck, but in order to assess his sexual market value to other women he’s got to have exercisable options for her to compete against, or at least display indirect social proof to that effect. So, she needs to limit his options while simultaneously determining he has those options.

Let your wife see that you have options, that you live your life on your terms, and that you are not dependent on her for your happiness. That is the true nature of dread.

So, to (finally) come back around to your question, you come off as sounding guilty about doing things without your kids. Don't. It's your life and you can have fun without her. As for what to do about the kids, either take them with you to go play at a playground (and you play too, don't just stand there doing nothing), or go out after they are asleep.

Title	Help with Dread Game
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Date	January 21, 2015 1:45 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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