Hitting the gym tonight.

Blarg_Risen · 2023-07-02T21:02:20+00:00

OP is banned for a bit. Post will stay up in case anyone's bored. Aaaaaand just for funzies, worst reply gets a 30 day ban.

wrld_industries · 2023-07-02T10:17:15+00:00

Sounds like you presented her with a shit test that she utterly passed.

SodHawk · 2023-07-02T09:53:54+00:00

This is all convert contracts. And your reply to her is cringe. Why are you speaking to your wife like that?

Praexology · 2023-07-02T15:30:29+00:00

I have lost frame.

What do you think frame is exactly? The act of being such a nice perfect pussy that you two don't disagree

I hardly ever see my kids due to the long hours required for my role and I haven’t been to the gym in weeks.

Get a different job pay pig. If you are neglecting your self imposed responsibilities because you work too many hours, then simply work less. "But we need to money." No, you need the money to live a lifestyle that is screwing up your sphere of influence.

Over the last 24 hours I tried to re-establish frame, cleaned everything up, made a nice meal last night, woke up early with this kids this morning, I was fucking on it.

You can't be "on it" because you did basic level shit over the course of a day. Dumbest thing I've heard.

She said “if we have sex you will turn into a jerk again”

She's probably right. You get complacent and try to trick your wife into drip feeding you sex. She doesn't respect you because you systematically place everything of value in your life at the altar of her pussy.

So she responds accordingly. Maximizing the most value she can extract from you. She likely sees you as a fussy child that she only coos to get to shut up.

She has been mostly silent since, and it’s been driving me up the wall.

This post could have been written by my wife.

NoMoreMrNiceJay · 2023-07-02T04:50:05+00:00

Is this a Rule 11? or is every weekend gonna be /askMRP?

Worldly_Preference_4 · 2023-07-02T05:34:19+00:00

She has been mostly silent since, and it’s been driving me up the wall.

You should be silent too. STFU. Don't react to her jabs and avoid falling into her choreplay frame.

Sepean · 2023-07-02T13:02:32+00:00

This trigged me because she knew I was trying to put my best foot forward for the long weekend to repair things.

No, you were not putting your best foot forward. You were being doing choreplay. You’re so stuck in beta world that you think this is the key to anything.

It is not. You have to be alpha. Hold frame. Pass shit tests. Do shit you enjoy. Be cocky. Learn game. Play dread. Be egocentric.

Read the sidebar and do what it says. Lifting is good, but she’s not going to fuck you just because you lift. You need to get your head around the basic concepts and start doing them.

stonky808 · 2023-07-02T05:56:47+00:00

Take the sex and her vag out of the equation, wtf would she have after that to manipulate you with? Absolutely nothing unless she’s willing to implode her entire life/marriage with a divorce.

NoMoreMrNiceJay · 2023-07-03T01:52:18+00:00

The 1st skill to learn in MRP is STFU. That means with your mouth noises & your body language.

Your wife said to you. "When we have sex, you start acting in a way I don't like - it's unattractive. I don't wanna have sex with you if you're going to do that. I'm scared that will happen"

Obviously, being the red pilled alpha aware 1%bf lump of muscle that you are, just freshly reframed 24 fukkin hours ago. Decided this was a shit test and you would fail it to show her who is the boss around here. Shit, you hardly see your kids, don't workout, barely do anything around the house.... The last whole 24 hours though, that's a whole new man. She should be bustin nuts just by looking at you!

You replied "If you don't have sex with me I'm going to act like an EVEN BIGGER whiney baby"

You offered her 2 choices.

Fuck you, you will be a baby.
Don't fuck you, you will be a baby.

Strong chance you could have looked at her in complete silence, literal STFU, and she would've comforted herself by sucking your dick.

Did she go get coffee when she walked off?

Also define "My wife doesn't do shit" What does she actually do?

bonjarno65 · 2023-07-02T06:42:48+00:00

I don't get it - are you believing you have to do things around the house in order to get laid?

In my own situation, my girlfriend knows our relationship won't survive her not giving me head at least a 3 times a week and sex basically every day. She's def wife material tho.

mdreal03 · 2023-07-02T03:53:21+00:00

What would have been an appropriate response?

Asleep-Pattern4737 · 2023-07-02T15:25:48+00:00

man, you got it right. You're good man.... Keep going, I feel your pain and I'm only in a relationship.

It always seems like the main big days that I have to put my best foot forward for that she decides to do this stuff.

I spoke to my dad about it and he said it could be subconscious and it's a pattern... They know what they're doing basically. It's like specially selected for when you're trying to do something good for yourself OR YOUR FAMILY!

STAY STRONG, you're right, don't let yourself slip. Thank you for your post

dolanthesemicolon · 2023-07-04T10:35:36+00:00

She said “if we have sex you will turn into a jerk again”

I replied with “would you rather me be a jerk?”

She went silent and walked away, no response, unamused.

This trigged me because she knew I was trying to put my best foot forward for the long weekend to repair things.

She has been mostly silent since, and it’s been driving me up the wall.

I honestly can't stop laughing at this bit. So let me rephrase this for you line by line

She enforced a boundry on you.

You shit tested her

She STFU and removed her attention from you

Your hamster was let loose in it's maze.

She removed verbal intercourse whilst a poor little hamster had no fucking idea how it got trapped in a mans brain

Are you sure you're the man in this relationship?

Joking aside. Your last sentence is valid. But in your instance you're not even there. Here, let me reword another sentence for you to show you your starting point:

~~Over the last 24 hours I tried to re-establish frame~~, clean everything up, made a nice meal ~~last night~~, wake up early with the kids every morning, I am fucking on it.

Until you're there, you're not really owning your shit. My advice to you is something similar to what I implemented myself. Start removing every day duties from your wife until she starts to question the value she's adding. If you find she is lazy and let's you, you don't give a fuck. You are player 1 in this single player game sorting out your own shit. You start lifting. And get strong. Take your anger out on those weights in the gym.

This is literally the first level of the game you are playing. You haven't even reached the first boss yet. (Well maybe you have, and she kicked your ass, so you have a lot of work to do). But, do you see how early you are in the process?

For you, and because of how you describe your wife, my advice would be think of this as a race and you are the only person in that race. This isn't a team event, your wife isn't running with you. In fact, if you let her, your wife can impede your progress. You need to reset your mindset to that "Player 1" mentality where it's you vs the game.

There is a much better comment from u/jacktenofhearts about this mentatity in reply to this post. Whilst I think the post is quite good, jacktenofhearts' reply is better. Considering your dynamic with your wife, I think this is the kind of mindset you need to be thinking about.

on1rider · 2023-07-11T08:57:09+00:00

Isnt her silence a vacation? Cherish it.

JT5150- · 2023-07-18T14:52:47+00:00

You seem to be trying to get your wife to fuck you. Already you’ve failed due to your covert contract. You should be checked out. Your goal is to be the best version of yourself and work towards moving on. It’s possible she will pull rainbows out of her ass and do some major 180 and become an awesome wife again for you, but the odds are against it. Humans aren’t designed to mate for life. It’s just not in our nature. She’s tired of fucking you and if you really think about it you are tired of fucking her. You made the mistake of getting the state involved and turning your relationship into a legal contract (many of us have smh) but you should be quietly speaking to an attorney about your options and getting things in order before she does. Stay on the path. The keys to the kingdom of unlimited pussy can soon be yours. Just take the next step. Ignore your wife and stop thinking about if you’re doing the right shit. Nothing she does affects you. You’re in dread game. Your wife may as well not exist, because you’re not really married anymore. It’s just on paper. You are parents; possibly friends, but nothing more.

TheZimboKing · 2023-07-02T04:53:46+00:00

Why are you trying to repair things? Go full jerk mode until SHE wants to repair things.

Take my advice with a pinch of salt. I am not marriage material myself.

Title	Hitting the gym tonight.
Author	BrutallyHonestUser
Upvotes	33
Comments	29
Date	July 2, 2023 2:40 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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