Quick question.

buffmoot · 2015-05-21T02:21:50+00:00

Agree and amplify.

'I'm fuming' - with a smug grin

ZeeyardSA · 2015-05-21T07:00:44+00:00

I used to always explain and tallk about EVERYTHING. recenntly I keep my trap shut. Its led to less issues esp with what i am going through, she wants me to spill esp at times my natural instinct(its a 10 year old habit) is to tell and explain Everything to her. She told me this morning that I am shutting her out. I hugged her, kissed her and told her I loved her and drove of to work

BluepillProfessor · 2015-05-21T04:56:39+00:00

[take her in your arms and twirl her around] "You are so cute when you ask questions."

Stoicism is easy to interpret as angry/passive-aggressive.

mkopec · 2015-05-21T12:27:03+00:00

Just this week my wife pulled that one on me in bed. "Are you mad at me?" I said why, should I be? What did you do?

RPAlternate42 · 2015-05-21T03:33:24+00:00

This is normal, especially when you start implementing MRP strategy.

"Are you mad?" or "Did I do something to make you mad?"

"Only because I haven't gotten some sugar from my baby!" And then kiss her. (simple amused mastery with sexual escalation)
"I'm about to fucking lose it!" Then smirk, "but a kiss would go a long way." And then kiss her (agree and amplify with sexual escaltion)
"No. Why? Did you do something to make me angry?" she will answer no. "Oh, well you're not mad, and I'm not mad... why aren't we making out?" Then make out a little (Flip the script and sexual escalation)

If she did, then tell her directly.

dandar4600 · 2015-05-21T14:29:50+00:00

Some of these answers don't take your post history into account. At this point I assume that yes, you are very angry. You've seen a lawyer and suspect her of cheating. I would be surprised if you were not angry. Having said that try to work off that anger in the weight room.

With her, be playful and try to have a good time. Initiate and escalate as often as you can. Keep touching her sexually suggestively even in front of your daughter. My daughter when she sees me touching and kissing my wife, is a little embarrassed but she smiles and loves to see it.

If you do these things to your wife, together with your self improvement should totally fix your marriage. I still am weary though of her babysitting nights out and evenings out with her friends. That is bullshit you have to nip in the bud somehow though making a stand about it now might nuke your marriage. See if you can return the favor. For every night out she has, have one too. Why should you stay home all the time and she should go out? Also have you started sleeping in your bedroom or are you still sleeping in the guest quarters?

Sepean · 2015-05-21T05:36:20+00:00

My wife did that a lot too in the beginning. After a while it became clear that I wasn't a storm brewing.

Stick to it. It takes a little while to demonstrate through action, but unlike talking it has value. Don't begin explaining that you've decided to change or whatever, it is unattractive.

Countpudyoola · 2015-05-21T03:00:54+00:00

Chicks will fish with common baits. "Are you mad?" Or the begging the question version "Why are you mad?" are just their minnows. Agree and amplify or flip.

whinemoreplease · 2015-05-21T10:29:51+00:00

if you wanted, you could be all like "i'm trying to change my mentality a bit" - just a vague answer that addresses the issue. a&a and the other answers probably work too. but i always like addressing issues head on - not at length though, also vaguely.

Title	Quick question.
Author	processedfoodkills
Upvotes	13
Comments	21
Date	May 21, 2015 1:50 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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