CMV: A cheating spouse should not be able to receive alimony payments after a divorce. : changemyview

trygold · 2015-09-06T21:57:10+00:00

Does she have to keep prviding whatever it was she was contributing to the relationship. Why should he have to keep paying for it.

my_name_is_gato · 2015-09-07T04:30:30+00:00

I am not a fan of this perspective. Family law is already a mess. If proof of adultery changed spousal support amounts, you would run into a worse quagmire of trying to prove/defend infidelity. I suspect entrapment issues would also arrive.

No fault divorce is a good thing. The current way it plays out for men is not.

Juan_Golt · 2015-09-07T07:29:37+00:00

Completely wrong approach. I believe a more accurate representation of the argument against alimony goes like this:

In our modern world both spouses are able to work, and neither can place a meaningful restriction on the other. Alimony made sense when one side of the relationship made all the career decisions for the entire family. Now that neither spouse holds that power it doesn't make sense to expect large ongoing alimony payments. Anyone who chooses to not work, is doing so of their own volition. They aren't in thrall to their spouse.
The argument for alimony is a contradiction. "Breadwinner couldn't have achieved the career they have without the efforts of homemaker!" Yet if the homemaker's efforts were so vital for breadwinner, then we do we expect breadwinner to go on earning the exact same amount of money after homemaker leaves? If homemakers help was so vital, then why is there no tangible effect when the relationship ends?

belil569 · 2015-09-06T17:30:25+00:00

while I dont condone it at all Ill agree with a caveat.

Context and circumstances. I dont mean some one tripped and fell onto some one else stuff but more mean that a lot of on here have seen folks that are trapped on a bad place, and cant leave for fear of what would happen to them, their children or being homeless. Again I dont condone cheating but I can understand that situation and not think less of the person vs some one just going out bar hopping and trying to fuck around.

rg57 · 2015-09-07T04:27:41+00:00

I don't know. The non-cheating spouse could have driven them to it by withholding sex or love.

I think in such a case, polygamy is the best option. The "cheater" can be respected for the human they are, and if the original spouse wants to leave, they can do so in a separate divorce.

Number357 · 2015-09-06T21:39:59+00:00

Their cheating doesn't automatically erase whatever justification there was for alimony to begin with. In many cases alimony needs to be cut back, regardless of cheating. But if one partner did legitimately make sacrifices in their career for the marriage, then it would be unjust to deny them alimony altogether. Maybe reduce alimony but don't cut it entirely and throw them out in the streets

Title	CMV: A cheating spouse should not be able to receive alimony payments after a divorce. : changemyview
Author	Bortasz
Upvotes	27
Comments	28
Date	September 6, 2015 3:37 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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