As a fair warning, this is going to be a very ranty post.

For the past few months, I've been visiting female-dominated subreddits primarily for the sake of curiosity. These reddits have included twox, girlgamers, trollx, and askwomen. At one point it included feminism, before I realized how blatantly close minded they could be. On the front pages of each of these subreddits has usually been AT LEAST one topic complaining about being treated unfairly in regards to such and such by males. Many of these are legitimate complaints, but many also scream their cries of victimization. This victimization, as well as double standards that occur in these subreddits, has driven me away from most of them.

Now, r/feminism I understand being a hub for complaints. While I view r/mensrights as much better than r/feminism, I understand they're both also places where people sometimes come to vent about what they view is unfair, be it unfair or not. However, I feel like the fact that these other subreddits I've been visiting constantly have cries of victimization shows a real mentality issue with women-dominated subreddits in general.

Girlgaming, for example, can't be about girls playing games without people also complaining about women's portrayal in games. It seems like a spinoff of r/feminism, just with game oriented victimization. I see women there talking about how they don't support selling their gender while simultaneously posting a blog that's supposed to be unique because it's from a woman (and that's its central focus). I see women there complain about how there aren't more female characters, yet whenever there is a female character (nonsexualized), they complain that any weakness is a result of the male writers' sexism. A character can't be a female and have weaknesses apparently, even though that is what fleshes out the characters. A character can't have any sexuality at all and be female, or she is viewed as another male sex toy (and I don't mean skimpy clothing sexuality, I mean ANY sexuality). If she doesn't have a sexuality, then the obviously male writer isn't taking into account what it's like to be a woman in a "patriarchal society."

This applies to books as well. I was recently in a discussion in r/askwomen about the way GRRM writes his characters. Because one female of several of his very nonsexual female characters has a sexuality, he's obviously just another male writer failing to write females. Nevermind that whenever a woman in real life is sexual, feminists jump to her defense and yell that that's who she is and to accept it. Meanwhile, these same women who complain about lack of male writers capable of writing females gobble up romance books that have abominably poor portrayals of both sexes. As a positive aside, I'd like to state that the argument went fairly maturely and I wasn't downvoted to hell for the dissenting opinion.

In female-dominated subreddits, I just feel like I can't read a thread without some mention of patriarchy, sexism, or some other form of victimization. I get annoyed and a little angry (though not visibly). And, while I would gladly support MRA out in the world, I don't see a point in visiting those types of subreddits anymore. Posters there favor the women who cry out victimhood and all forms of dissent are downplayed and often downvoted. The women on those subreddits are for the most part typically so rooted in their own victimization that they refuse to believe anything that proves contrary to their claims. It doesn't do any good arguing with them and one only upsets oneself in the process. I suggest avoiding them to prevent yourself from also getting upset needlessly. Other subreddits might be up for debating, but the ones I've mentioned seem to show no hope for trying to pry people away from their victimization.