What Men Actually Think About Age-Gap Relationships

GarlicFalse3779 · 2025-08-17T19:49:58+00:00

Interesting how a "man of value" for women involves financial achievements and emotional and psychological maturity, while for women maturity in responsibilities and the female body, something that each gender reaches at different ages, the woman earlier, and the man later......

captainhornheart · 2025-08-18T11:12:19+00:00

If they're consenting adults, I couldn't care less.

ControlledResults · 2025-08-17T22:09:15+00:00

I really don’t think this is much of an issue as long as the relationship is legal. Sure, gold-diggers are a thing. But, so are the toxic feminists who spent entirety of their 20s spewing out hatred against men and being an overall repugnant group of people that made it abundantly clear to never approach them. Younger men should try to avoid the same group of women who are toxic feminists in their generation too. I would say it’s better to have an age gap than to subject yourself to all kinds of mental abuse from a woman who doesn’t love you at all.

Hatenfury-VR · 2025-08-18T05:49:26+00:00

Men dont much care in my experience. It's usually women who shame older men for dating the younger women they find more attractive who give the stigma to age gaps.

Don't let the opinions of the post wall harridon who can't keep a relationship shame you. They want the same men as the younger women and have to compete to get them, the shame is part of the stratagy. Don't give them a moment of sympathy, they can still date younger men and provide for them, they just don't want to.

mrmensplights · 2025-08-18T03:59:45+00:00

In the latest incarnation of 'men are defective women' we have some women projecting their own preferences on to men only to be shocked to find out men don't actually share them. They are so into themselves that they actually attach morality to this based on nothing but their own preference.

That is par for the course, but what is surprising is that anyone can blind themselves to something so blatantly obvious and ubiquitous in our society. Anyone growing up with a functioning brain should already know the truth. They should have seen it demonstrated endlessly. Yet here we are.

For anyone interested in something kooky like science. Studies also show what everyone should already know through observation: Men on average tend to rate women in their 20s as most physically attractive. Though other things are important to men it's overwhelmingly common that men date and marry younger women. This is explained through an evolutionary lens: younger women are nearer peak fertility, which has historically shaped male preferences. Meanwhile, women practice hypergamy and their attraction often clusters around men their own age or slightly older. This is because women look for things like social status, stability, and resources in a partner. Again, as this behavior is cross cultural and consistent throughout time we look to an evolutionary explanation: Reproductive success for women depends on partner support during pregnancy and partner investment in offspring.

Crying about the evolutionary strategies of animals is about as productive as yelling at the rain. Attaching morality to it is just a pathetic tactic to try to get your own way when those evolutionary imperatives collide.

adam-l · 2025-08-18T10:40:52+00:00

As long as the age gap is within a limit, I don't see any problem. I could see problems arising if the man is more than 4 decades older...

SidewaysGiraffe · 2025-08-18T14:35:46+00:00

Why do they always act like this is so shocking? Men are most attracted (not exclusively attracted) to women with the markers of youth (to have the longest fertility window), health (to live longest), and fertility (for obvious reasons). Yes, this is true even among men who don't desire to have children, since you do not choose what you are attracted to.

Honestly, some days it feels like I'm the only person on Earth who didn't sleep through high school biology class.

A relationship with a large gap in life experience may lead to people having little in common, but the probable outcome is simply the relationship failing; unpleasant and often quite sad, but are you honestly trying to say that "a bad relationship" is somehow lethal? If your partner tries to isolate you from other people, that's almost always a sign of controlling, toxic behavior; a discrepancy in age, or in any other form of "power" whatsoever, has nothing to do with that. A healthy relationship is going to see people who care about each other and want to see each other thrive.

In fairness, I'll admit that the best way to that isn't always clear, and good faith disagreements can and do happen; the ability to discuss them calmly and reasonably to sort out your differences is probably one of the biggest green flags you're likely to encounter.

djc_tech · 2025-08-18T15:14:58+00:00

Meh…I was in a relationship with someone and had a 17 year age gap and she was really cool. I liked her a lot . I was 45 and she was 27/28. I would have dated her longer but I messed that one up.

She was amazing . We got along well and she was educated and good looking. The amount of angry females was funny as if this 27 year old woman didn’t have the brains to make her own decisions. She was quite capable and smart.

They can work if you’re fine with the differences in where you both are in life and you can be chill about it. I’d 100% date her again if I could rewind time and this time I wouldn’t mess it up

World-Three · 2025-08-18T17:46:55+00:00

It makes sense I guess.

I feel like most of the negativity surrounding age gap relationships is the potential for predatory behavior but also the idea of peer pressure dictating what the relationship is.

Everyone seems to be quiet when a young woman is dating some super rich person a few years from their casket. But if they feel the woman is not winning in the relationship, everyone is going to point it out and I really feel like that part is what really gets swept under the rug.

Think about how quiet everyone is about female predatory behavior. If this same outlook is applied, the women may be so quiet about it because it's a win for those women so it's not a problem. The same can be said about the girls in high school who are texting graduated men with jobs and cars. Women teachers grossly outnumber men, so they know what's going on and do nothing because those girls are perceivably seen as coming out on top of that deal. That should disgust all of us.

Hearing about it from men is fine. They were all reasonable takes, though it didn't feel like they related to youth for the sake of having children more than a few times, which is likely a situation most men will be in if they remain surrounded by career driven women who don't have time for a relationship until they're out of time for a child...

PomegranateMinimum15 · 2025-08-19T11:31:28+00:00

I feel what u guys are discussing is not mens rights but cultural stigmas. Your rights aren't being taken at all. Theres no political party aiming to take your rights away at all. If so women would stand besides you.

And just date who u want to date. Women and men we suck we stigmatize. Interesting to.see this sub. Maybe ill learn something

BasementMods · 2025-08-18T22:22:43+00:00

I dont like that it makes things harder for young men to date their own age, young men are getting shafted from ever direction lately it seems like, and people wonder why they are going hard right.

jack_avram · 2025-08-18T12:43:49+00:00

Good god I can barely read the article with 80% of the screen covered in ads.

cyb3rfunk · 2025-08-18T12:47:00+00:00

I don't care, but I can't help but think those aren't great relationships. How well can they each integrate in the other's social circle? How well do they connect since they likely have completely different cultural references? I'm sure some of those relationships work, but I would be surprised if it was the majority.

Massive-Win1346 · 2025-08-18T14:12:36+00:00

Does anyone actually read the article before commenting? Most of these responses have nothing to do with what the men interviewed say about their relationships.

Title	What Men Actually Think About Age-Gap Relationships
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