Why are we always the problem?

Kiiyyy · 2026-04-28T16:45:59+00:00

Because hatred towards men is now so normalized, that's how it is in the 21st century, no matter what happens, feminists will say we're the assholes

connaconnah · 2026-04-28T19:39:56+00:00

Lmao, I answered this question here on another account and got an automatic 7-day ban from Reddit. Anything even slightly critical of women gets completely shut down.

Basically, it comes down to women wanting to make things easier for themselves, and one way to do that is to offload the accountability for problems to men. Passing the blame to men is easier than working to solve the issue.

Cindylynn43 · 2026-04-28T20:26:55+00:00

Men are not the problem. All media, feminist, and their screwed up ideas are the problem!

manicmonkeys · 2026-04-28T19:51:35+00:00

You don't "have to apologize". Reject framing like this, that makes it sound like you're forced to do things you aren't being forced to do.

Use your free will.

Pitiful-Ad8561 · 2026-04-28T17:01:11+00:00

Ah, I'm going to assume your married? Probably have to get used to decades of apologizing for things that weren't your fault, just to model to her how to take some responsibility and accountability for her actions.

I am very successfully going on 42 years, and any day now . . . : )

significantload1147 · 2026-04-28T18:39:29+00:00

We're only at fault because the men that came before us allowed all of this to happen.

Robot_Alchemist · 2026-04-28T18:55:16+00:00

My wife does that it makes me feel insane

FiveMagicBeans · 2026-04-28T19:06:56+00:00

Because the average man is so pathetically pussy whipped that they'll accept the most ridiculous and toxic behaviour on the slim chance of getting some.

If men actually held women accountable for the horrific shit they pull on a regular basis (the demands to be coddled, the emotional manipulation, double standards, and outright abuse), things would turn around pretty damn quickly. But the problem is that for every guy that's willing to remove toxic women from their life, there's three simps willing to take his place in line.

Sonic_The_Hamster · 2026-04-28T19:45:34+00:00

Because women were privileged and society keeps that privilege going. You live in a Gynocentric society which was set up to protect women due to the disadvantages they had.

Feminists have ensured that this situation has continued whilst they matched towards equality because women aren't looking for equality they are looking for power.

I'm afraid feminists, simps, the law, the media,band the average woman will keep this the norm and there's not much we can do about it.

That's said the new generations are taking this and I think give it about 50-60 years and women and feminists are really going to hate the fact that they are genuinely equal.

Future-Stretch-401 · 2026-04-28T18:04:15+00:00

If you actually care then you have to get used to being the one that apologizes. Not just with women, it’s how the world works. Someone fucks things up and its bothering you? Then if you want to fix it you have to make the other people involved inclined to agree with you. Unless you are inclined to violence, or have an army to back you up, the easiest way to do that is to make the other people feel like it wasn’t their fault. In the end it’s just words.

Burned_Out_Paradise · 2026-04-28T23:42:45+00:00

Females struggle with accountability, even the best ones. Society has a lot of blame in this. I don’t know that it’s fixable anytime soon. As a man, my entire education throughout my life has involved taking accountability.. sometimes even when I had nothing to do with it. This is conditioning not only for men’s careers, but prepping us for marriage.. because we all know who’s going to be apologizing for everything. 😆

Samwill226 · 2026-04-29T04:06:43+00:00

Because we are the only group that everyone can hate evenly. All genders and backgrounds can now unify together and ignore their own bad decisions and poor choices. You know....the stack is always stacked against them because we deal the cards and we are the ones who were born blessed with millions in our pockets and the power to destroy random people we're never met.

illkmsoneday · 2026-04-28T17:38:11+00:00

Because women show a 4.5x preference towards women (350% more than base likely to judge a woman positively).

While men show a 0.5x lesser preference for men than they do for women (50% less than base likely to judge a man positively).

I personally believe that between a 350% more vs 50% less, the 350 figure is innate while the 50% figure is socially enforced upon men.

So to see women at fault when they are at fault. You'll need to do it properly without qualifying it. I'll believe you, that's personal.

Consistent_Ad3181 · 2026-04-28T19:14:33+00:00

Because we turn up, we are reliable and we get stuff done. Most of all we are accountable. We can't let the team down, and we don't.

Comprehensive_Baby53 · 2026-04-29T01:07:18+00:00

Women are a lot better at sticking up for each other. They have a tribe mentality while men have a lone wolf mentality. If another man fails, thats good for a man, more opertunity for him. If a woman fails, that bad, there is safety in their numbers.

FayteLumos · 2026-04-29T19:22:35+00:00

There's this trend in recent years of teaching girls and women that we're "strong" and "powerful" and that we need to "stand up for ourselves" and "stop letting others walk all over us."

This is all wrapped up in a feminist bow. But it's just half-disguised man-hating.

In movies and songs and stuff, women are increasingly being taught to be agressive and to dismiss men's feelings entirely. Men are being basically dehuminized in a lot of women-focused media. Girls are taught that boys are just useless and they don't need them, and women are innundated with "My husband is an idiot" messages on social media.

The reason an argument is always your fault, even if she started it, is because she lives in a world that tells her, "No matter what, you need to prove you're right, and the men around you are just there to put you down."

It's constant, and it's everywhere. "Take your power, or the men will take it from you." And there's no nuance in these messages, so women just learn to put men down to "protect" themselves.

I'm sorry you're subject to this. It's one step away from, "Don't speak unless spoken to," and it's deeply inhumane and unkind.

GusGusGustavo · 2026-04-29T21:06:46+00:00

Es más fácil deshumanizar a un grupo que a unas actitudes o ideas

RADsupernova · 2026-04-30T02:26:12+00:00

Ever heard that joke about women and accountability? Yeah, that's the joke

Pretend-Storm4566 · 2026-04-28T17:20:34+00:00

Because more women vote than men, and they vote for women's issues, unlike men.

OhHolyCrapNo · 2026-04-28T19:25:17+00:00

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Darth_Skeptus · 2026-04-30T16:32:18+00:00

I once heard that social media is to women what call of duty is to men. In social games, the first person to accuse or make a complaint is typically given higher consideration than the person accused. So, the first to lay blame has the upper hand in social situations. It's a form of control.

vikingosegundo · 2026-05-01T21:28:26+00:00

Modern women are trained to not accept accountability — so they need someone else to blame, the patriarchy or certain men.

DonPepe181 · 2026-05-04T20:12:40+00:00

They are not. Stop believing what the idiots are screeching. It's called gaslighting in the modern world. You must make the decision for yourself to start thinking for yourself.

New_Course9454 · 2026-05-05T07:51:11+00:00

That’s the way it is because you - and most men - do indeed cherish them. We listen to them whine all the time at home and in the public sphere and say nothing. But when only one side of any story is heard, then you can’t blame people for taking that side by default. The only solution is to treat them like you would treat a man. They want to be grownups, so show them what comes with that.

JazzlikeStorm2070 · 2026-04-29T00:58:22+00:00

Can you give some examples of arguments where you’ve had to apologise for things that were the woman’s fault

LickidlySplit · 2026-04-29T07:20:56+00:00

Boycott women!

Title	Why are we always the problem?
Author	Previous-Ad-6815
Upvotes	112
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Date	April 28, 2026 4:26 PM UTC (3 months ago)
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